jollytiddlywink wrote:No, I read all of what you wrote. Indeed, as I noted in my post, I quoted what you said "word for word" and all of a sudden you didn't agree with yourself any more. The fact that you managed to make two contradictory arguments in one paragraph, namely that 1. women must dress modestly to avoid provoking rape and 2. what women are wearing should be irrelevant when judging a rapist, suggests an inability to follow a simple line of thought from start to finish, not that I have twisted your words. What you wrote is there for everyone to see, and you quoting only the last bit of what you wrote is not going to muddle anyone's memory. Indeed, I'm not the only person to have picked up on it. G13 called it to your attention, too.G13 wrote:Oh, and saying that rape isn't about lust but continuing to talk about "provocative" clothing is clearly contradictory.
macgamer wrote:Surprise, surprise, people get a bit snippy when they are treated as less-than.
The rest of your argument is also rubbish... calling your demand that women dress modestly 'an appeal to pragmatism', for example. I am rather surprised you understand the concept, since you're normally so busy insisting on absolutes of good and evil, or art/porn dichotomies.
Then you say that "you can see... on a certain level" that masturbation is worse than rape, although you take care to tiptoe around Aquinas on this one. This would seem to be the first time you aren't familiar with his work back-to-front. I'll be charitable and chalk it up to coincidence. Surely you didn't skipp that passage just because he wasn't busily condemning the gays?
And yes, there is a lot of ire. I think that rape and bigotry ought to be met with a bit of ire, don't you? Or should the down-trodden and abused be 'pragmatic' about it all, hide away quietly and not demand equal protections?
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-13456306
And as for your suit just improving your appearance (please note that it isn't 'appearence'), but the clothes of women being provocative, get off your high horse/hypocrite soapbox, and recognise that any suit, tight-fitting or not, is intended to emphasise male secondary sex characteristics, like broad shoulders and an inverted triangle torso, in much the same way as some women's clothes are intended to highlight a narrow waist/broad hips or cleavage. Just because you're not willing to recognise this doesn't make it any less true. And what you insist on calling 'dapper', lots of people would call 'sexy'. And this is not an art/porn divide (which does not, in any case, exist... this is just you and your absolutes again). It is a divide between your outlook and reality.
On a separate note, macgamer considers most sex to fall onto a scale between wrong and *Go to hell, do not pass 'Go', do not collect 200 quid, etc*
And yes, I also agree that engaging with macgamer can be bad for your mental well-being.
G13 wrote:Keep your homophobia far away from us.
jollytiddlywink wrote:I'm a feminist (if that's a label that a gay man can apply to himself).
macgamer wrote:G13 wrote:Keep your homophobia far away from us.
That's curious, I don't know how you are able to judge that I either hated or feared homosexuals, but I suppose that etymology for you. If you control the meaning of words, you can control how people think.
jollytiddlywink wrote:I'm a feminist (if that's a label that a gay man can apply to himself).
On the matter of labels, I have a sincere question based on a lack of understanding and genuine curiosity. Also I had better put in plenty of caveats before I issue it: please do not be offended, I'm not trying to insult or demeen you.
Could you please explain to me the thinking of homosexuals when they adopt 'gay' or sexuality as a label or identity? I have not seen a comparable phenomenon amongst heterosexuals.
RedCelt69 wrote:Well, it was an observation and a rhetorical question. The "right back atcha" wasn't a good comeback, as it emphasised my observation. But hey ho.
Senethro wrote:Do you want to even try to think how a man making a statement that feminists do not believe in equality or that if they do, they shouldn't call themselves feminists might be a bad thing?
OK. Let me see, now. As a man, there are certain views that I, as a man, am not allowed to hold or share? And it doesn't even entertain you as a possibility that your view is a sexist one? As a human being, I hold all sorts of views... I shouldn't have to ditch certain ones because of a factor-of-birth.
If you think otherwise, then you are a sexist. Or stupid. Take your pick.
Feminism fights for the rights of women. On this, my belief system is in perfect alignment with them. However (and it's a big "however") there is no semblance of any kind of interest in the rights of men. None. Zero. Nada. For that reason, I reject feminism and everyone who calls themselves a feminist.
"Yeah, of course I care about your rights. But... y'know... do you care about my rights? No? Not even a little? Oh. Then you can fuck right off." is the summary of my position.
I'll stick with humanism, as it covers all factors-of-birth.
RedCelt69 wrote:jollytiddlywink wrote:I still don't follow your claim to be pro-equality but anti-feminist. I haven't met anyone who told me they were a feminist who wanted to ignore men's rights, any more than gay rights campaigners want to lock up all the straights in huge camps, where they will not be allowed to wear pink triangles.
Perhaps, in all my years on this planet, I've encountered more reasons to despise feminism than you have. Humanism also covers the rights of LBGT. But then again, if the gay rights campaign groups (that you're familiar with) don't dismiss heterosexuals as wholeheartedly as the feminists and feminist groups (I've encountered) dismiss men... you won't see a problem with those groups.
RedCelt69 wrote:G13 wrote:You don't know what feminism is, and Your Doin It Rong!!
I didn't say that feminists don't know what feminism is. I didn't say that they're doing it wrong.
Otherwise, excellent point well made.
RedCelt69 wrote:G13, the short reply is that I believe in equality. People who call themselves feminists aren't into equality. Or they are, but they've attached themselves to the wrong grouping.
Senethro wrote:yes you did and heres the quote!RedCelt69 wrote:G13, the short reply is that I believe in equality. People who call themselves feminists aren't into equality. Or they are, but they've attached themselves to the wrong grouping.
RedCelt69 wrote:Senethro wrote:yes you did and heres the quote!RedCelt69 wrote:G13, the short reply is that I believe in equality. People who call themselves feminists aren't into equality. Or they are, but they've attached themselves to the wrong grouping.
And back to my earlier comment about you and thinking. Read them both again. Now tell me that I said what you think I said. Hint: I didn't.
Hennessy wrote:I've figured out why this bothers me.
Senethro wrote:Oh my, how terribly embaressing! You made a statement that was not to be commented on by other people, how gauche of me to fall into your trap and respond!
Senethro wrote:Oh, very good. I see what you've done there, you've turned it back on me like its my discrimination thats the problem.
Senethro wrote:If you think otherwise, then you are a sexist. Or stupid. Take your pick.
Damn, if only I could get away with "agree with me or you dumb" on my writeups.
Feminism fights for the rights of women. On this, my belief system is in perfect alignment with them. However (and it's a big "however") there is no semblance of any kind of interest in the rights of men. None. Zero. Nada. For that reason, I reject feminism and everyone who calls themselves a feminist.Senethro wrote:"abloo bloo bloo what about my rights" cried the middle class white straight male
Hennessy wrote:My goodness I seem to have stumbled into a bit of a warzone.
RedCelt69 wrote:What have my class (I don't have one), ethnicity, sexual preference and gender got to do with anything? In what way do any of those things hold any relevance to this conversation? Again, are some people not allowed to hold certain views?
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Every human is as equal as every other human. And yes, that includes men. I'd hold that same view if I were a black lesbian.
RedCelt69 wrote:Diplomacy Monkey is telling me that it would probably be best not to call you an utter fuckwit during my reply. So, I'll do my best not to do that. But bear in mind that it took a lot of will power and self control.Senethro wrote:Oh my, how terribly embaressing! You made a statement that was not to be commented on by other people, how gauche of me to fall into your trap and respond!
I said that it was a rhetorical question. I didn't say that it wasn't to be commented upon by other people. It wasn't a trap. You utter fuckwit.
Oh damn. No self control, today, it seems.
Senethro wrote:Oh, very good. I see what you've done there, you've turned it back on me like its my discrimination thats the problem.
You didn't address my point, you utter fuckwit. So you're not denying that people of a certain gender are not allowed to hold views that can be held by people of the opposite gender? If you hold that view, then you are being sexist. It really is that simple. Throwing around the "bigot" word, hoping that it will stick to me... well, that really won't work. Would you like to make another attempt at justifying your sexist position?
Feminism fights for the rights of women. On this, my belief system is in perfect alignment with them. However (and it's a big "however") there is no semblance of any kind of interest in the rights of men. None. Zero. Nada. For that reason, I reject feminism and everyone who calls themselves a feminist.Senethro wrote:"abloo bloo bloo what about my rights" cried the middle class white straight male
What have my class (I don't have one), ethnicity, sexual preference and gender got to do with anything? In what way do any of those things hold any relevance to this conversation? Again, are some people not allowed to hold certain views? You're imagining a world in which I, in that societally-powerful position, am using that position (I'm not) or arguing in favour of that position (I'm not) or hold that position to be something other than hideous in a world that knows too little in the way of equality.
I were misogynistic, you might have a point.
If I was racist, you might have a point. If I was a homophobe, you might have a point. But you know what, Senethro, oh fuckwit of all fuckwitedness... I am none of those things.
If my race, gender and sexuality have placed me in a position of centuries-old "power" then I reject that so-called power and (as with class) refuse to belong to that mindset. We're humans. Every human is as equal as every other human. And yes, that includes men. I'd hold that same view if I were a black lesbian.
For you to suggest that I could hold that view with those factors-of-birth, but not with the factors-of-birth I ended up with... well, that's you being stupid.
Senethro wrote:yeah, this is pretty much the most privileged thing. The whole lacking an identity thing is actually you never being "othered". You're sitting pretty much in the default/favoured/privileged state of being. You never notice your identity because everythings been set up to favour you.
Did you see macgamers question asking JTW about when he adopted a gay identity because macgamer believes he doesn't have a comparable straight identity? Of course he has a straight identity, its just one that occupies the privileged position. He has never noticed his straight identity because he has never been forced to notice it. Privilege.
Senethro wrote:yeah, this is pretty much the most privileged thing. The whole lacking an identity thing is actually you never being "othered". You're sitting pretty much in the default/favoured/privileged state of being. You never notice your identity because everythings been set up to favour you.
Did you see macgamers question asking JTW about when he adopted a gay identity because macgamer believes he doesn't have a comparable straight identity? Of course he has a straight identity, its just one that occupies the privileged position. He has never noticed his straight identity because he has never been forced to notice it. Privilege.
macgamer wrote:I have a sincere question based on a lack of understanding and genuine curiosity...
Could you please explain to me the thinking of homosexuals when they adopt 'gay' or sexuality as a label or identity? I have not seen a comparable phenomenon amongst heterosexuals.
From my perspective, attraction and sexuality are only a small component of an individual. When it is used as a label it seems, to me at least, to magnify it beyond proportion. As I have said before, attraction strikes me as a continuum that does not fit into neat little boxes, much as I, and seemingly society too, would want it to.
macgamer wrote:There is nothing inherently 'wrong' with (heterosexual) sex. Its intrinsic purpose is a 'good'. Its moral status starts to shift when its execution deviates from its intrinsic purpose.
macgamer wrote:I don't know how you are able to judge that I either hated or feared homosexuals...
macgamer wrote:I'm not the Eternal Judge, it isn't up to me. People are free to, and should, act according to their own conscience. People should be free to discuss morality and philosophy, being prepared to reform their own conscience as developments arise. Disputations on morality are a symptoms of consciences formed in different ways.
jollytiddlywink wrote:Ok that done, let's deal briefly with everything else.
G13 is probably able to judge your attitude by reading what you wrote, ie that you think there is something inherently wrong with gay sex, etc etc. That, and the fact that (Senethro, I think) mentioned your prior use of the terms 'obligate homosexuals' and Same Sex Attraction, which are both terms that paint you into a rather specific camp of thought (or should I say anti-camp?).
And if you're complaining about being portrayed as an ogre, you could do worse than to examine some of the things you've said and the terms you've used. Applying terms (like obligate) that the dictionary defines as relating to bacteria to people doesn't convey the impression that you regard such people as fully human, let alone as worthy of respect. Moreover, arguing against equal rights for those people doesn't help, either.
Right, so if I'm free to act according to my own conscience, you won't oppose me marrying my boyfriend and then adopting children, will you?
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