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Pussycat wrote on 12:34, 22nd Aug 2003:
What I have noticed in my circle of friends and in my family is that those who hold strong their religious beliefs...are much more pro-marriage.
Interesting. While I'm sure this stereotype holds true to some extent, I have recently in my life befriended many people from broken Christian families. Fine, this does not mean that their beliefs might not be strong at the beginning, but clearly suggests that these values alone are not enough to always make it last. I would argue tradition (esp. cultural) to be more of a deciding factor for personal convictions, with religion also playing an important role.
Which leads to the question: does marriage therefore mean as much, or is it just (rather crudely I'm afraid) a means to an end?
Personally I think marriage without living together first is a bit of a bad idea.
Agreed. Kind of
Very often the firmest relationships develop after a long history and/or previous friendship. Thus there might already be an almost complete sharing of one another's lives, without actually 'living together'.
This is not to say that a good marriage can't follow after only several months of acquaintance. Just that in the best scenario it is well thought-out and rational. And just what is perfection in marriage? We all have varying values and wants, thus no two marriages are the same.
Oh.. just had to plug some Anna Karenina in here:
"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way."
Impulses and a punch-drunk emotional state can be fun, but an underlying rational love is the way to go. From these few points it should be clear what my stand is: fairly optimistically pro-marriage, although with a realist grasp.