I haven't read this thread in extreme detail, and I don't intend on doing so. But here's how I see it.
A bunch of people who were friends from the same hall a couple of years ago also happened to post on the sinner as well. It got to the point where they would tell people that they were going to the union or wherever, and offered to whoever else felt like doing the same thing to come and meet up with them at some point.
It has gotten to the point where people know each other personally, talk to each other in #thesinner (UICN) on a regular basis, and on msn on a regular basis, and will meet up whenever they please, be it termtime or otherwise.
I'm very sorry if you consider this to be exclusive to anyone, but I don't believe this is the case. It's not about being a group which you have to gain the right to join.
It just so happens that some people who read these messageboards are closer to each other than others.
The people I hang out with are very nice people, and a large number of those people happen to post on these boards. In turn, a few of those are people I happened to meet as a result of us posting here, and meeting in the flesh as a result. If anyone else wishes to do the same, then go for it. If you choose not to meet others who post here, then go for that option - it makes no difference to those who do, because it doesn't mean you're "excluded" and cannot take part in whatever else happens in The Sinner.
To be honest, all this has been rather unpleasant. To both parties who have been "attacking" and "defending" - firstly it's one big party, which shouldn't be treated like a civil war.
Secondly, if you post in The Sinner, or any forum for that matter, the chances are you'll get made fun of, in a light-hearted manner. OK, people will come across as shallow in some respects, but that doesn't take away from the fact that the majority of people reading these boards are good people, and like to poke fun, however misguided. Hell, go ahead and call me a stupid ginger hoor if you like - it's all in good fun for people who get along. And if you don't like being made fun of like that, say so politely, and the good folks will respect that wish and back off.
Thirdly, for dealing with making posts on a thread of this nature, it doesn't help to use aggression, to shout (use caps), or to be sarcastic to the point of being snide. This applies to those who feel aggreived for whatever reason, equally does it apply to people who wish to respond to whatever it is they feel they have to respond to. "I'm sorry, but we'll have to agree to disagree" never did anyone any harm.
Finally, if you really want to know how nice someone is, talk to them personally, be it face-to-face, or over instant messenger. And if you don't have their contact, use this forum's email system to say that you'd like to offer to talk. That way, you can find out more about a person, and thereafter be able to decide a little better whether you will hang out with him/her a little more, or just remain a passing contact, to whom you can wave if you see them across the street, or realise if this person is simply not compatible with the type of person you are.
Thank you
- Chris
I have a face... it's on my profile, which needs updating