how to let off steam

[KateBush]

Can anyone give me any suggestions on how to vent intense anger that can't be verbalised?

I was misdiagnosed terribly by a string of hospital consultants who not only implied awful tihngs about me but put me at risk by prescribing medication that could have killed me. I want to make a complaint to the hospital but I haven't calmed down enough to do it yet. I've seen a real specialist who has given me a correct diagnosis and says he can help me. I am so pleased about this, but I am still incredibly angry about the way I've been treated up until now.

They almost ruined everything...my health, my degree, my plans and my future. I can feel the anger sitting on my chest like a ballbearing and it is making me really heavy and sad. I just don't know how to make myself feel any better, and how to get these intense feelings of pure white rage out of my system. I'm so angry I just can't verbalise it.

[C.]

Try some perspective, the consultants who mistakenly diagnosed you have probably saved hundreds of lives throughout their careers. Nobody is perfect and its just bad luck that you got the short straw.

In terms of bad luck yours does not compare to that of the hundreds of thousands who have had their lives destroyed by a tidal wave.

[KateBush]

I know, and I don't want you to think that I'm trying to say that what happened to me is as bad as what hpapened to them; if anything it makes me feel worse that I feel so angry when there are biggre things going on. It's just that I can't control the rage I feel.

[Haunted]

This is nothing a lawsuit wont cure

[JAK]

Tried a punchbag?

[hr]I want my BBC

[Nymphomanic]

Hey. Sorry to hear the NHS screwed you up. Write a formal complaint letter -perhaps alrert a paper and causes a scandal, it would givew you some relief to see all the doctors public;ly humilited

[LonelyPilgrim]

[s]KateBush wrote on 20:26, 8th Jan 2005:
I know, and I don't want you to think that I'm trying to say that what happened to me is as bad as what hpapened to them; if anything it makes me feel worse that I feel so angry when there are biggre things going on. It's just that I can't control the rage I feel.


Don't feel guilty about feeling bad or being angry. You were messed around with and from the sounds of it royally screwed over, you have every right to be angry. Don't worry about other things in the world. Yes, a lot of people are in worse conditions, and if you can, donate for them. However, the fact that they are worse off does not mean that you should ignore injustice and hardship that has been placed upon you. To do so is to deny your own self-worth and risk losing touch with your own life.

So, be angry. Be mad. Be enraged beyond words! Use a punching bag like has been recommended. Go for a run. Find an object you don't mind losing and just destroy it... just vent. Find someone to scream at. Do whatever it takes to calm yourself down to where you can think up a plan of action.

If you need someone to talk to, my door is always open. Granted you don't know who I am or where my door is... but it is open, for you or anyone who needs someone to talk to.

pilgrim_in_the_night@yahoo.com

Recognizing that I'm a stranger, and it's unlikely you'll want to open up to me, let me once again put in a very good word for Student Support. They are some of the most helpful people on the planet, I swear. Check them out if you need someone to talk to, either as a counsellor or for legal advice or anything else you need.

Hope this, or someone else's advice helps. Take care.

[hr]
---Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power.--- Abraham Lincoln

[novium]

[s]KateBush wrote on 19:49, 8th Jan 2005:
Can anyone give me any suggestions on how to vent intense anger that can't be verbalised?

I was misdiagnosed terribly by a string of hospital consultants who not only implied awful tihngs about me but put me at risk by prescribing medication that could have killed me. I want to make a complaint to the hospital but I haven't calmed down enough to do it yet. I've seen a real specialist who has given me a correct diagnosis and says he can help me. I am so pleased about this, but I am still incredibly angry about the way I've been treated up until now.

They almost ruined everything...my health, my degree, my plans and my future. I can feel the anger sitting on my chest like a ballbearing and it is making me really heavy and sad. I just don't know how to make myself feel any better, and how to get these intense feelings of pure white rage out of my system. I'm so angry I just can't verbalise it.




Rant about it somewhere. Even if it is just in a word document or something. Or find somewhere truly random on the internet and just start ranting and ranting and ranting until you feel better.

[flarewearer]

[s]KateBush wrote on 19:49, 8th Jan 2005:
Can anyone give me any suggestions on how to vent intense anger that can't be verbalised?


i find screaming at the top of my voice whilst underwater very good. Breaking things is good also, or a nice, long, punishing cycle (or any other form of physical exersion). Failing that, listen to the 1812 overture at FULL VOLUME on loop

[hr]
..Is space hot?... ...Of course it is, where do you think we get pineapples from?...

[Slash wannabe]

[s]Nymphomanic wrote on 22:27, 8th Jan 2005:
... it would givew you some relief to see all the doctors public;ly humilited


For what purpose though? Its a little unfair to bring someone down for one mistake. As someone has said they could have saved many lives. This is why I hate the fucking media. Theres no helping another unless its trendy to help, all that they do is pull celebs down and whine about things not working the way they should.

Perhaps allowing some medicical boss know about it would be good though. No public things just an angry letter telling all that you have suffered and you want steps to make sure this doesnt happen to others with a similar condition.

KateBush, the way to release anger depends on what kind of person you are. Screaming and shouting very loudly somewhere private is a good approach if you are non violent. However if you are violent, get a large object that you can damage and completely destroy it as much as you can until you are so tired you can't even sit up. Good luck!


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[tintin]

[s]flarewearer wrote on 09:53, 9th Jan 2005:
i find screaming at the top of my voice whilst underwater very good. Breaking things is good also, or a nice, long, punishing cycle (or any other form of physical exersion). Failing that, listen to the 1812 overture at FULL VOLUME on loop

Bottle of finest Champagne (the more expensive the better) and Tchaikowski's Piano Concerto No. 2 / Sait-Saens' Organ Concerto at FULL VOLUME on loop. After consuming said bottle feelings of rage will have dissipated leaving in their place feelings of guilt at a) the money you have just squandered and b) remorse for the damage you have inflicted on your ear-drums.

Apart from that, try going for a long run, the longer the better - always works for me.

[hr]
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[Rectalprobe]

I find that going to the gym and taking it out on the weights and machines helps me!!!!]

Or calling my girl round for a noise hard session works aswel. speaking of which................

[DrAlex]

[s]JAK wrote on 21:45, 8th Jan 2005:
Tried a punchbag?

[hr]I want my BBC


I'll let you hit me a couple times for £20...£50 and you can kick me in the junk

[hr]
I rock at modesty-seriously, when it comes to modesty, I'm the shit

[Guest]

Go on a killing spree.

[Bex :)]

I recommend filing several complaints - to each of the terrible doctors you went to and also to the hospital. Then keep writing to them until you get adequate compensation!!!! After all they did endanger your life! Most people just give up after a while - you need them to get the message loud and clear that people deserve reliable treatment.
In the meantime I recommend lots of rough sex (only with willing partner) and also lots of outdoor exercise & chats with good friends.

[Guest]

"This is nothing a lawsuit wont cure"
A lawsuit will do nothing but deprive a cash straped NHS of even more of its funds. And this in turn will ensure that even more people get badly treated by the NHS. The only reasonable time for a lawsuit in my view is when a misdiagnosis has caused disability and funds are required to provide assistance (e.g. a new wheelchair).
And my advice for the original poster would be to try and see it from the doctors point of view. I cannot believe that if you turned up at a hospital/doctors office with classical symptoms of a disease that a doctor would fail to diagnose you. Perhaps your presentation was not classical and confounded matters and made it difficult for them to diagnose. And for the wrong medication sometimes medication can be given when contra-indicated in certain circumstances. The patient just has to be monitered more closely for a reaction and the dose has to be carefully controlled.

[Guest]

"This is nothing a lawsuit wont cure"
A lawsuit will do nothing but deprive a cash straped NHS of even more of its funds. And this in turn will ensure that even more people get badly treated by the NHS. The only reasonable time for a lawsuit in my view is when a misdiagnosis has caused disability and funds are required to provide assistance (e.g. a new wheelchair).
Humphrey will no doubt be able to expand on this but professional negligence claims against a medical practitioner are notoriously difficult. The issue of whether the treatment breached the standard of care expected of the professional is usually determined by whether such treatment conformed with expert opinion within the profession (rather than a standard that the patient or the man on the street might find reasonable). If such expert opinion finds that the treatment was rational or reasonable (and as long as such expert opinion is not held to be without a logical basis), then the standard of care provided will not have been breached and any claim will founder at an early stage.
For public policy reasons, such as the cost issue and the danger of defensive medicine (the doctor choosing a course of action that carries the least chance of an action being taken against him rather than that which is necessarily in the best interests of the patient), the English law of torts has been steered away from the American path, where the doctor-patient relationship has been put on a more equal footing with other professional relationships where legal recourse is concerned (and is arguably fairer).