Do you go down the first night?

[xm_peex]

Can I just say a big thank you? Most guys that I've dated have been of the opinion that it is compulsory for girls to go down on a guy every night, whether it's the first or the hundredth. Personally I find this insulting as I feel that oral sex is the most intimate thing that you can do to your partner and therefore it should be saved for a loving, caring relationship.

[Pussycat]

I agree with the above. It seems to me, though I may be well off the mark, that the expected going down thing is a relatively new fad? By new I mean by people aged 18 and under although I had previously thought it was younger than that (I must be getting old). I do find it slightly disturbing that it is the done thing amongst fourth years, mostly just because I agree with the above - it's one of the most intimate things you can do and I'm not sure that these younger people (trying not to be patronising here) fully understand that.

[Rex Mundi]

Forgive a poor innocence christian lad his ignorance but this surely isn't serious!? Ok people kiss on the first date, sure; and some people go all the way... but to "go down" on someone as if it's just something you do with any old stranger?

I mean I suppose I can understand having sex with someone on a first date; at least it's a bit more personal and lasts the night, even if it's a one night stand. But to meet someone in a bar, take them home and have oral sex on the doorstep as some sort of way of saying good night? Thats just animalistic behaviour. Infact no, not even animals do that.

[Kibet]

a little task for yous all to do inspired by good willl hunting. take a drink of any liquid, water will do, and hold in enough to just be able to open your mouth. then say "good night" i'm laughing as i write this. this is gold.



[hr]
JERRY: What is this?
KRAMER: We're making sausages.
JERRY: I thought you were gonna watch a video.
KRAMER: Yeah, an instructional video about how to make your own sausages.

[Wong]

* Wong deletes the Internet.

[hr]When you play with fire, you must anticipate some burns
Chasing for desire, it's just a different way to learn

[Miss Maryland]

if it's only a matter of lust and the person isn't someone you would want to have a relationship with, i suppose you could 'go down.' personally, i wouldn't do that, but there are several people who do. i can't really say when is the 'best' time to 'go down,' as i haven't had an opportunity to go down that road yet. if you feel fine with having a one night stand, keep in mind that news travels fast when you're in hall and that people will view you differently after they find out about it.

[hr]...and there was much rejoicing.

[lucycath]

Definitely, right there on the doorstep..turn on the porch lights too while you're at it. Nah, I think it would be really wierd for me, personally, to engage in oral sex when I barely know the other party. I agree with the previous posts in that it is something I would only do in a committed relationship.

[sir Tufton Bufton]

Jeez, why the hell not, if s/he wants you to? S/he'll probably respond in kind...

No big deal imho. I did, and she did, and we were both happy. If it's a one nighter, so what? At least you'll have something to think about the next day.

If s/he doesn't want to then ya don't got a choice to make...

[flash99]

[s]xm_peex wrote on 19:38, 25th Oct 2003:Most guys that I've dated have been of the opinion that it is compulsory for girls to go down on a guy every night, whether it's the first or the hundredth.

Jeez, you date the wrong guys. I'm not for all this fairy 'intimate relationship is compulsory' nonsense, but if someone's going to go down it should be their choice. It's a favour/treat thing - something they want to do to/for you.

Personally, if a girl did that on a first date I'd be a bit surprised (depending on the girl;), but seriously turned on. I certainly wouldn't 'exclude her from my life'.

That said, I wouldn't be wondering why it didn't happen if it didn't, though. I've obviously missed this custom (**insert minor grumble of dirty old fifth year here**)...

Flash!

Oh, if I were to go down on the first night, it's unlikely to be on the doorstep