What do you look for?

[themanwiththehair]

Yea, figured that, but was hoping she might have a sensible answer- on a message board it isnt necessarily obvious:S

[Steveo]

Well, its not any easier being 6' 6" either.

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[iohannes]

Ah diddums

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That is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.

[Midget]

Cry me a river tall guy.

[iohannes]

And it's not easy having a 12" pianist, you know!

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[dalekanium]

Feet - you can't possibly like someone who has bad feet!

[Cain]

[s]Unregisted User dalekanium wrote on 08:32, 3rd May 2004:
Feet - you can't possibly like someone who has bad feet!


is there such a thing as pretty feet?

everybody has ugly feet; they aren't an attractive body part. and since you hardly ever see them, why is it such a bother?

[Aureliano]

[s]Cain wrote on 10:11, 3rd May 2004:

is there such a thing as pretty feet?everybody has ugly feet; they aren't an attractive body part.


I disagree. I have no problem with feet, but don't necessarily find them attractive. Mine aren't perfect, but I'll live with them (you kind of have to).

What I've found having learned some massage techniques and because i enjoy dishing them out, is that most people tend to be extremely sensitive about their feet. Women have an especially strong reaction and stigma to this. Almost everyone without fault thinks that their feet in particular are horrendously ugly. What people should understand is that, just like with hands, there is nothing wrong with most feet. They come in all shapes and sizes, and most of the time reflect/complement the rest of your body parts/physique. Therefore they are just another natural extension of the wonderful and beautiful you. (wow, i should run a self-esteem clinic) Because I know how good it feels, I love being able to relieve knackered, sore feet. Feet are great, there's nothing wrong with feet.

Unless they are completely butt ugly, that is.

and since you hardly ever see them, why is it such a bother?


Why bother? Because smelly, cracked, rough, calloused feet can be quite a turn-off in a close relationship, in and out of bed.

[harmless loony]

Yeh u can get good feet (but I don't confess to owning a pair!)

As for my perfect guy - any guy who will take care of lil old me! Has to make me laugh too! Oh and he has to let me cook for him (I'm such a motherhen sometimes!)And before I forget - my dad has to like him too!

I'd prefer a tall man (yes im that shallow...but then again I'm 5ft 2...so most ppl are taller then me anyway!) Also of Indian/Kashmir/Pakistani origin...cos we'd have something in common.

Although I've recently discovered one problem as an asian girl...apparantly short asian girls are not considered beautiful by asian standards...so really I got no hope finding my perfect guy.

oh and blokes with smelly feet need not apply....

[Rufus]

For some reason I have a very clear picture of what I'd look for:

Irish - gargling accent.
Dark curly hair.
Mischievous Eyes (Ha. Cringe time already).
Penchant for seafood.
A tail.
A merman.
OR
A man in armour - specifically Tudor

[Rrrr]

I have lovely feet! and I appreciate a nice pair too. I hate very long toes, they're just scary and sometimes feet can just be the worst things ever. not mine though. they really are lovely

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[SlimSlenderSexy]

I tend to look for an attractive face on an intelligent woman, who must also be interesting and enthusiastic and healthy. Sadly, a woman with all these qualities is pretty hard to find, fortunately St Andrews does have it's fair share of fine women.

[standrewsstudent]

[s]harmless loony wrote on 14:40, 3rd May 2004:
I'd prefer a tall man (yes im that shallow...but then again I'm 5ft 2...so most ppl are taller then me anyway!) Also of Indian/Kashmir/Pakistani origin...cos we'd have something in common.

Although I've recently discovered one problem as an asian girl...apparantly short asian girls are not considered beautiful by asian standards...so really I got no hope finding my perfect guy.



Out of curiousity what would you have in common apart from your origin, the only people I normally hear spewing out this tripe are americans and the odd clueless person on a messageboard. So please enlighten me.

[harmless loony]

[s]Unregisted User standrewsstudent wrote on 21:41, 5th May 2004:
[s]harmless loony wrote on 14:40, 3rd May 2004:[i]
I'd prefer a tall man (yes im that shallow...but then again I'm 5ft 2...so most ppl are taller then me anyway!) Also of Indian/Kashmir/Pakistani origin...cos we'd have something in common.

Although I've recently discovered one problem as an asian girl...apparantly short asian girls are not considered beautiful by asian standards...so really I got no hope finding my perfect guy.



Out of curiousity what would you have in common apart from your origin, the only people I normally hear spewing out this tripe are americans and the odd clueless person on a messageboard. So please enlighten me.
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language - I'm multi lingual so I'd obv like to continue to speak the other languages I've been brought up with. Someone who understands the culture and why things are done a certain way - someone who can get involved with and understands the traditions of the culture.

[CarolynSD]

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[harmless loony]

Spot on Carolyn SD!!

I mean for starters I actually originate from Kashmir - so the issue surrounding wars over that land and the security of my family over there is obv something of deep concern to me. But someone who does not originate from the area will not understand why, despite having a British nationality, the land of Kashmir is important to me.

I've pointed out quite a few times on these message boards that I have been stunned by the level of ignorance surrounding my culture - people just completely unaware of how things really operate and although it's good to go thru it - sometimes it's a pain to explain it all.

I also want a Muslim man, simply cos he will go thru all the religious rites with me - he understands my faith because it is his faith and so on. To the person who voiced the query about why I would want someone from the same ethnic origin as me - I'd like to ask, wouldn't you prefer to be with someone you understand and who understands you without the need for constant explanation as to why things are the way they are?

[quarterstaff]

american culture?

for a country thats only about 250 years old you guys think you have culture that can be compared to europe or asia?

pfffffft.

[hmmm]

Not really, it takes the fun out of it. I don't go looking for someone to be friends with for example on the basis that they must be the same as me so why should it be different for a prospective partner? I would go through this life never learning anything if I chose to associate only with those from my country of origin or those that believed in exactly the same things as me.

You would turn down any potential nice guy from a different culture for example in favour of a muslim who wasn't actually very nice just because he was of the same culture? It boils down to the same seeing as you are ruling out many people who have done absolutely nothing wrong.

I think if christians went around saying they would only speak to other christians they would be accused of being narrow minded, or if white people stated they would only contemplate having relations with other white people.

I think above all it is who the person is that counts and where they are from or what colour or religion they are matters not one bit if it all feels right. To place restrictions on what I am after apart from the persons' good personality would be lessening my chances of finding my potential soulmate or dream partner or even someone who will become a good mate.

This world is multi cultured and multi lingual, it doens't mean we have to walk through it with blinkers on to preserve our own. There is no difference between people in the long run and what little there is makes a person more interesting, not something to be passed over in favour of someone that is less hassle for you to bother with.

[Aureliano]

[s]quarterstaff wrote on 13:49, 6th May 2004:
american culture?
for a country thats only about 250 years old you guys think you have culture that can be compared to europe or asia?


Now, now. I'm all for the occasional America bashing, but you should consider equality here. Who's mentioned comparisons here, and why should we try to quantitatively compare European/Asian/American culture, as you say? I will lash out myself with the old "only existed for 250 years" argument, but only if Americans try to assume a superior culture/society. This is not the case here.
To me, Carolyn's been simply talking about the universal difficulty of living in close proximity to someone of 'a different culture', and how that can lead to problems in translating and understanding one another. From her perspective and experience, it's British culture that is stubborn and mocking of her heritage. This could be equally true of a Britain living in America, with the Yanks not willing to understand separate taps for hot/cold water etc.

Yes, modern American society can be argued to be an over-rated, modern amalgamation of the world's heritage, mixed with modern day consumerism & hotdogs & McWorld. And yet Gershwin sounds just as beautiful as Wagner. Society and cultural differences will always be mocked, but don't forget your own biases. Australian aboriginal society has hardly changed since the Stone Age, and yet we will not attack its relevance. Especially as an anthropologist, I will argue that the passing of time can create 'deeper/more complex' cultures, but generally speaking not more meaningful or superior ones.

So just watch it!

[rache1]

[s]quarterstaff wrote on 13:49, 6th May 2004:
american culture?

for a country thats only about 250 years old you guys think you have culture that can be compared to europe or asia?

pfffffft.


::sigh::

I hope you are being sarcastic, but I have a feeling you aren't. As an American, there are plenty of things that piss me off about my own country, esp. the government, but it is still my home. And I find it a bit funny that you only site 'American' culture as starting the day it became a nation. Did British culture start only when it was known as Great Britain? People have been inhabiting the Americas for thousands of years, and being part Native American, I do have longer cultural ties then just 250 years.

Yes, the US may not have been a country for as long as many European nations, but it doesn't mean we don't have a seperate and viable culture.


*Edited because I always do my format tags wrong. Bleh.*