What do you think?

[jaffa]

OK was wondering what peoples views were on girls asking guys out, should they or should it be up to the guy to do the asking? because i was told that it makes guys feel powerless and I should just sit there an look pretty is this true?

[rob 'f*ck off' wine boy]

if you want to ask him out, it may be he doesnt have the guts to do it himself. it's better to act on the impulse rather than just wait on him to do it or not, just take a risk

[the racing tortoise]

you could try both getting really drunk and then watching the fireworks fly.

[hr]

ohh well.

there's always alcohol.

[bramble]

Seriously just ask him out, my male friends are always saying how theyd love to be aproached by a girl and i think i'd do it - life is far too short, if you dont do it you'll regret it

[hr]

Ive been through the desert on a horse with no name
It felt good to be out of the rain
In the desert you can remember your name
Cause there is noone to give you pain

[Cain]

Quoting the racing tortoise from 07:12, 16th Apr 2005
you could try both getting really drunk and then watching the fireworks fly.

You might get thrown out of wherever you are for setting off fireworks, but it'll be a good story to tell your grandchildren.

[hr]

I hold an element of surprise

[Bitterandtwisted]

Absolutely. I don't no of any guy who would consider this an assault on his masculinity. Don't bother with subtle hints - we're realy thick when it comes to recognising them.

[hr]

I let my mind wander and it didn't come back.

[Robo]

Quoting jaffa from 02:49, 16th Apr 2005
OK was wondering what peoples views were on girls asking guys out, should they or should it be up to the guy to do the asking? because i was told that it makes guys feel powerless and I should just sit there an look pretty is this true?

thats bullshit...

ask him out if u want to, guys love it...

[CatherineB]

Hello Jaffa Cake!

Ask ur extra-tall housemate this question, I would be most interested to hear his opinion! You obviously know mine!!

xxx

PS Sorry I didn't see u much last night, hope u had fun with my crazy friends!

[Si]

Quoting jaffa from 02:49, 16th Apr 2005
OK was wondering what peoples views were on girls asking guys out, should they or should it be up to the guy to do the asking? because i was told that it makes guys feel powerless and I should just sit there an look pretty is this true?

That's absolute bollocks. Just go for it. I don't know one guy who would feel "powerless" if he was asked out by a girl.

[LonelyPilgrim]

My first girlfriend asked me out.

It was a bit confusing though, because I inadvertently told her 'no'.

See... she asked me if I wanted to go to Prom, and I, not even thinking that someone might ask me, said "No" because I thought she was asking if I wanted to go, in general, and I wanted to appear unconcerned.

That's when she started to cry.

About .5 seconds after that my brain caught up with my mouth and I started apologizing and saying "Yes, of course I'll go..."

[hr]

I sing of arms, and the man...

[novium]

oh no! God, that sounds like a horrible situation! Jeez, guys can be really dense sometimes!

Quoting LonelyPilgrim from 19:56, 16th Apr 2005
My first girlfriend asked me out.

It was a bit confusing though, because I inadvertently told her 'no'.

See... she asked me if I wanted to go to Prom, and I, not even thinking that someone might ask me, said "No" because I thought she was asking if I wanted to go, in general, and I wanted to appear unconcerned.

That's when she started to cry.

About .5 seconds after that my brain caught up with my mouth and I started apologizing and saying "Yes, of course I'll go..."

[hr]

I sing of arms, and the man...

[hr]

I'll read to you here, save your eyes
you'll need them, your boat is at sea;
your anchor is up, you've been swept away & the greatest of teachers won't hesitate to leave you there, by yourself, chained to fate

[Guest]

I know for damn sure that it's the only chance I've ever got of getting a girl friend.

[Guest]

Aha! Someone who is in the same position as me! I really like this guy, and although he knows im alive (!), we havent ever spoken- so i got to thinking, wouldnt it be a bit random/scary if i just went up to him and asked him if hed' like to go for a drink!!? Any guys got any thoughts on that one? Plus, can you imagine how embarassing and ...well, just awful, it would be were he to say "no"..omg, id want to go crawl under a rock and die!! Thats precisely why im wondering if its really worth it. I do like him but, if thats what might happen, should i bother?
Thanks

[Mr Comedy]

I've always been of the opinion that it is better to try than to left wondering "What if?". I wouldn't mind at all being asked out, and it would probably come as a nice surprise. I would at least give it a shot with a girl who had the (metaphorical) balls to sum up the courage and ask me out, because it's clearly been something that they have thought about. Go for it. It's ten times better than watching said chap get a girlfriend and you sitting there wondering what could have been. At least you know.

[Robo]

Quoting from 19:51, 16th Apr 2005
Plus, can you imagine how embarassing and ...well, just awful, it would be were he to say "no"..omg, id want to go crawl under a rock and die!! Thats precisely why im wondering if its really worth it. I do like him but, if thats what might happen, should i bother?
Thanks

its just the same for guys.... nobody likes getting knocked back. but as mr comedy just wrote better to go for it and give yourself a chance than wish what could have been....

[Rufus]

Yep. I agree. Bite the bullet and just ask him.
If he knocks you back, more fool him.
Life really is too short to get stressed about these things.
Good luck.

[hr]

I love you all.

[Steveo]

I'd love for a girl to ask me, makes a nice change for the man. I'm far far too shy to ask women most of the time.

[hr]

[s]Alone at night, I feel so strange, I need to find all the answers to my dreams[/s]

[harmless loony]

Stuff the political correctness and go for it and like someone else said, if he turns you down then he's the fool.

Good Luck!

[Bonnie]

Life's too short.
But you know what's even shorter?
Your time here!
Before you know it, you'll be wondering where all the hotties have gone off to because all that's left are "gay men and bastards" and then you realise that they've all graduated! And then you graduate. And then you'll never have a chance again for that guy that you want to ask out anyway.

[hr]

I love cheese.

[jaffa]

cool cool, thank you, I tend to end up asking the people that i really like out although that might more to do with the fact that I like to control certain situations.