What do you look for?

[Rufus]

Thinking about this more, maybe it's better that you look for nothing. I mean, eternally searching for your formulaic ideal will get you nowhere.

What's needed is an open mind and a good hefty dose of optimism.

The idea of someone with a premature pot belly, or an inexplicable love for Jerry Springer or a hatred of something you love etc may be repellant to you now, but when you meet them all your preconceived pros and cons might just go out of the window.

Actually, what I've just said is all rather obvious. Meh.

[Happy-Go-Lucky]

[s]Steveo wrote on 10:26, 21st Apr 2004:[i]
My problem is that for my 9am molecular biology I don't have time to make myself look good

I have a 9am lecture most days too, and I live in New Hall, while my lectures are in the Gatty Building on the far side of town. But that's why I get up at 7:00am. 1/2 an hour for showering, dressing, putting in contact lenses etc. 1/2 an hour dolling up with makeup, hair etc. 1/2 an hour for strong coffee and breakfast, 15 minutes for checking emails. 15 minutes to hop on my bicycle and race to the lecture, and usually arrive in time for liberal chin-wag before the class starts.

However, I can be quick if I need to. I once woke up at about 8:40am. Hurled myself out of bad, yanked on some clothes, ran out the door hopped on my bike and got there in time. Not bad.

[Steveo]

I couldn't possibly get up at 7. Poor you by the way.

I'm just not a morning person - I don't taslk to people when I get up - it takes an hour or two.

[hr]Steveo
The man who never wears a hat

[jennyo]

I find that the people I'm most attracted to, in a fancying and friendly way, are the ones who are interested in me.
I don't mean I'm so desperate I'll fall in love with anyone who asks me out -- just that someone who actually pays attention to me when I talk, is happy to see me, remembers things we've talked about before, respects my opinions etc. can be really attractive regardless of appearance. I guess it's all about respect.

Oh, and a nice bum helps!

[Rufus]

I've never understood this arse obsession.

What on earth is the slightest bit alluring about two podgy bits of flesh splurged together?!

I just can't comprehend it.

[Happy-Go-Lucky]

I could ask the same thing about boobs. Except they are slightly further apart.

I can hardly resist a guy in a polo-neck jumper. I think they look adorable. But then, my mates tell me that's probably why I have a habit of falling for gay guys. That and I keep liking the "nice" ones. I like them neat, and tidy. I also like a man whose not afraid to wear a bit of pink in his outfit. But again, maybe this explains my ability to beat the odds on falling for gay men. I've had 2 so far out of not many. I'm curse. My Mum reckons what I need is a straight gay guy, if you get me there. (No offensive stereotyping intended). I guess I don't like really laddish guys. Not into the whole alpha-male complex some guys have.

[Rufus]

Well, yes...but breasts have the geographical advantage of being further away from the smelly parts.

I blame the above crude inanity on eating too many Pandrops in the past half hour.

[Lex]

I've noticed that height seems to be quite an important issue for most people. But how low will you go? Does it matter if a guy's an inch or two shorter than you or if a girls an inch or two bigger? Say they were everything you could possibly want in a member of the opposite sex (or same sex) yet they were just a bit off the mark in your "perfect height" category, would you date them?

Humour me here.

[addiction]

im 5'4, and i once fancied a guy who was my height, perhaps a little less. anywho, i assumed i wouldnt go out with him coz of ridiculousness of me in heels having to bend down to kiss him. in the end, love won thru, and we dated for 5 months. he was my first true love, and the height thing, altho occasionally embarrassing, faded into insignificance.

i seem to be attracted to short men, i dont know why. a significant proportion of my boyfs seem to have been on the short side, but with big personalities (to make up for a lack of height methinks?). starting to ramble, so im gonna end by saying on looks alone, he's gotta have gorgeous eyes. but personality wins out - absolutely have to make me laugh!

[iohannes]

Breasts are good and so is a nice arse, and nice legs. Most of the girls I've gone for have had at least two of the three. Not sure why I think they're great, I just do. Sometimes the weirdest things can turn you on. Any behavourial psychologists out there?

Oh, and I like tall girls. Since I'm just under 6'4 myself, bending over too much will give me a bad back

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That is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.

[iohannes]

Just a thought. Another addition to this thread. Is anyone going out with their perfect guy/girl? In other words, how close to your "perfect-o-meter" are they? Would make an interesting statistical analysis. (Oh, dammit. Damn having to study quantitive history!)

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That is all ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.

[iohannes]

Good point. Didn't think of that

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[Sarahbails]

[s]iohannes wrote on 17:27, 21st Apr 2004:
Just a thought. Another addition to this thread. Is anyone going out with their perfect guy/girl? In other words, how close to your "perfect-o-meter" are they? Would make an interesting statistical analysis. (Oh, dammit. Damn having to study quantitive history!)

I'll answer 'no' to your question- though I'm safe since the chances of my one-and-only reading these boards are pretty slim. Or rather, it seems I am going out with the complete opposite of what I always thought was my perfect guy. For years I was attracted to tall, thin guys, the type who wear their hair a little too shaggy, who can play the guitar and the piano and sing. Guys with cynical view points on the world, overwhelmingly bleeding heart liberal kind of guys. Guys who weren't afraid to cry and who had these crazy complex emotions that pulled you into them and made you want to be that one girl who completely understood them. I tended to fall for guys with some sort of ethnic background- huuuuge thing for indian guys.

and now I've got a guy who is perfect for me, and who bears little resemblance to the guys I've just described above. He's average height and weight. He gets his hair trimmed like clockwork because he goes to a military school. He's conservative. He only sings when he's very, very drunk. He's a 'man's man' and he would rather die than cry in front of anyone (except for me ) Nothing ethnic about him, he's a flag-waving republican American. I never in a million years thought I'd end up with or even be able to understand a guy with a military mind set and conservative views- but I'm with him, and I understand him, and now I realize that all those ideals I had as a teen were silly cause if I had followed them I would have never found the perfect guy I have now.

This has turned out to be a bit mushy . . . sorry!

[tinker]

Mushy is good, it's nice to see theres hope for the rest of us : )

[Prophet Tenebrae]

I just tend to look for a girl of reasonable looks, comparable interests, who's outgoing, doesn't mind my various vices, likes a good time and doesn't have any sitcomesquely annoying mannerisms.

[oddly familiar]

[s]Happy-Go-Lucky wrote on 11:12, 21st Apr 2004:

I have a 9am lecture most days too, and I live in New Hall, while my lectures are in the Gatty Building on the far side of town. But that's why I get up at 7:00am. 1/2 an hour for showering, dressing, putting in contact lenses etc. 1/2 an hour dolling up with makeup, hair etc. 1/2 an hour for strong coffee and breakfast, 15 minutes for checking emails. 15 minutes to hop on my bicycle and race to the lecture, and usually arrive in time for liberal chin-wag before the class starts.

However, I can be quick if I need to. I once woke up at about 8:40am. Hurled myself out of bad, yanked on some clothes, ran out the door hopped on my bike and got there in time. Not bad.


You get up at 7 every day? wow.... Ummmm, you know, if youre trying to look nice for us, well, thankyou. But there are only 9 guys in our class, so unless you're tring to impress one of them specifically.... why not do all that makeup stuff after the first lecture?
It's before you might meet anyone you might want to impress, but saves you from having to get up at 7 am. Just a thought.

[hr]
When she walks,
Oh the wind blows and the angels sing,
But she doesnt notice me

[iohannes]

Early to rise and early to bed makes you healthy, wealthy and wise. Which is why I am ill, poor, and dumb. Least we know now who the red haired maniac on the bicycle is

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[benedict]

I would say a girl who is self-obsessed, always plays the victim, is manipulative, wants people to do everything for her, never wants to learn how to do things for herself, a bitch, boring and is never happy.

[Amanda]

i have the complete opposite to my perfect man.

just kidding i have the perfect person for me. *smushy nausea inducing love* as long as someone makes you as happy as you are, and loves you, then any other ideas of what might have been 'perfect' for you (not that i really ever had any, apart from colin firth, lol) go out of the window.

[helpful]

The reason men are wired to appreciate bums is to do with looking for a mate who will be a good child bearer ie in the olden days it was someone with a wide behind as this indicated wide hips, good girth - perfect "machine" to make healthy babies. Over time this has changed to fit in with the current fashion but essentially the perfect bum equation still holds - you divide your waist measurement by your bum measurement and the closer you are to a 0.7 the better (I think that's the right way to work it out, can't really remember!). This works because it doesn't matter how a large a lady you are, all that matters is your relative bum size to the rest of your body no matter if you are a size 8 or a size 18 :)

Liking breasts came about because of their resemblance to bottoms(!). Men could judge a lady by her behind and so in time their was another indication up top that reminded the males of their bottom fetish ;) By the way when I say "men" I'm not sure we were homo sapiens yet at the time of all this happening. Another reason men like them of course is that they are a symbol of womanliness. Again though it doesn't matter what size as different men like different things, but thats down to social factors more than anything else and the fact of course that the size of breasts doesn't affect how good you are at child bearing :) Obviously this all applies to heterosexual men - someone else will have to fill you in on what homosexual gals and guys look for, and yes I do have to make the distinction as I've only ever read about heterosexual attractions and their basis in nature so don't yell at me :)

And finally legs. This one is easy - men like imagining what is at the top, so obviously they like to appreciate the view on the way up as it gets their imagination going more. Long legs means longer to gaze up them which means more anticipation. Obviously knobbly knees or stubble is going to kill the guys groove somewhat.

So why do women like nice bums? Beats me - I've never really noticed but I would guess that women like something grabbable - again to get the imagination fired up for what may be to come ;)

Phew that was a lot, hope I got at least some of it right ;)