Is lust good between friends?

[Maisha]

Ok, now this may sound stupid (and it is.) I have become increasingly attracted to one of my friends, they're a great person and fun to hang around with. Unfortuantly I want it to go further but I'm worried I only want that to happen because I (basically) haven't sleep with anyone in ages. Now is this attraction just because I'm too horny? Or is it just the next step in the friendship?

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[Spaceman Spiff]

Now that you mention it, ive found myself in the same situation with a friend i know from high school. The way i figure it is that if you can actually see it going any further than simply saiting your lust for one night then i wouldnt bother cos its just gonna get messy and probably make your freindship very messy or complicated. If yes go for it, since youve been great friends it could make for a great relationship, and if your friendship is as solid as it sounds then it would be awkward if he/ she doesnt feel the same way. Personally im going for it cos it could be great, best o luck !

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[Captain_Spanky]

Hell, go for it I say. I've been in a similar position with a couple of my friends lately. Just get it out in the open that you want to remain friends, and it's just a bit of friend sex and all will be good.


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[Cain]

the important bit is that you both understand what you want from the relationship, and how you see it.

if there's an imbalance in how you view the other, then it'll end in tears, chances are.

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[Guest]

if you're best friends with someone you have known for so long, it's almost impossible to see them in a sexual light. the thought of it is actually very creepy and strange, if not somewhat incestuous?

[rhody]

Many of the best relationships start as friendships. You know you get on as friends, trust each other, and best of all the image you're attracted to is real not idealised. If you want, and feel ready for, a long term relationship I'd say go for it. You could start by having a mutual friend plant the suggestion that there might be attraction from you. As for your worry that it's horniness for its own sake, is it only your friend that is turning you on right now? If so then it's something more - and better.

[hmm]

[s]Unregisted User wrote on 22:50, 18th Oct 2004:
if you're best friends with someone you have known for so long, it's almost impossible to see them in a sexual light. the thought of it is actually very creepy and strange, if not somewhat incestuous?



No the fact you think is that is pretty creepy though.

Some of the best relationships come out of strong friendships so if that is what you are both interested in it could be good.

If however you just want sex then it is bad to do it with someone who is such a good friend as someone will almost certainly develop stonger feelings and if they aren't reciprocated it will all end in tears as Cain said.

Do you really want to risk your relationship for just sex? If it was a relationship you were after you probably wouln't be worrying it was just because you wanted sex - just a thought.

[novium]

[s]Unregisted User hmm wrote on 15:14, 19th Oct 2004:
[s]Unregisted User wrote on 22:50, 18th Oct 2004:[i]
if you're best friends with someone you have known for so long, it's almost impossible to see them in a sexual light. the thought of it is actually very creepy and strange, if not somewhat incestuous?



No the fact you think is that is pretty creepy though.

Some of the best relationships come out of strong friendships so if that is what you are both interested in it could be good.

If however you just want sex then it is bad to do it with someone who is such a good friend as someone will almost certainly develop stonger feelings and if they aren't reciprocated it will all end in tears as Cain said.

Do you really want to risk your relationship for just sex? If it was a relationship you were after you probably wouln't be worrying it was just because you wanted sex - just a thought.
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I disagree. I have a guy friend that I've known since I was five. He's like my brother. It would just be too weird to try and look at him in a sexual way.

[hmm]

[s]novium wrote on 16:24, 19th Oct 2004:
I disagree. I have a guy friend that I've known since I was five. He's like my brother. It would just be too weird to try and look at him in a sexual way.


Not many people go to uni with someone they've known since they were five. And it obviously isn't a problem for the original poster if they're thinking of their friend lustfully.

[Rex Mundi]

de ja vu?

http://www.thesinner.net/messageboard-v ... hread=8602

[anotherStudentAmongstTheC]

Attracted is a very 'human' emotion and should be ignored. After all why would you want to force your lust on another human being?

Think with your head not your balls and forget about sex for 1 second!

You disgust me...

[Slash wannabe]

[s]anotherStudentAmongstTheCrowd wrote on 01:51, 26th Oct 2004:
Think with your head not your balls and forget about sex for 1 second!


Who says the original poster is male?


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[otsegolectric]

[s]anotherStudentAmongstTheCrowd wrote on 01:51, 26th Oct 2004:
Attracted is a very 'human' emotion and should be ignored. After all why would you want to force your lust on another human being?

Think with your head not your balls and forget about sex for 1 second!

You disgust me...


http://www.thesinner.net/messageboard-v ... read=12069

do i smell a hypocrite?

[oddly familiar]

[s]anotherStudentAmongstTheCrowd wrote on 01:51, 26th Oct 2004:
Attracted is a very 'human' emotion and should be ignored.
You disgust me...


ummm... assuming that the people in question are actually human, what exactly is wrong with having a human emotion?