Questioin for the girls

[Ragamuffin_artist]

Just out of curiosity, to what extent is being a 'nice guy' a turn off? Or isn't it?

[bramble]

To most girls, 'nice guy' is NOT a turn off! To some extent i agree with Duncan, typically 'nice guys' tend to have their own opinions less, be shyer and more desperate. HOWEVER a nice guy is what every girl really wants, no matter how much they go for the wankers at first. Desperation and not having an opinion ARE turn offs, but if you avoid these and are still nice then you are an ideal for most women - just dont be too shy to go for things!
Its hard to give an informed opinion because its such a general term, but i wouldnt worry too much and in my opinion its not a turn off - try a turn on - theres nothing nicer than feeling cared for by a genuine guy.

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Ich will die Ruhe stören...

[flossy]

Girls tend to go for the typical "bad boy" type until they're ready to settle down a little more... and then the nice guy comes into his own!

However, would never date a bloke who didn't stand up for himself. Especially in an argument with me!

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All in all, I'd say I prefer electrons to people.

[Lyeta]

I think flossy and bramble hit it on the nail - most girls DO ultimately want a nice guy, but being nice ideally doesn't involve being pathetic, unopinionated and desperate. As bramble said, having a guy genuinely care about you means a lot.

[novium]

Nice guys are great. It's not a turn off. But I think, as has been pointed out, there's a difference between being nice and having no spine. Or being nice and being so delusional that you think the right thing to do is never state an opinion, disagree, or whatever.

I mean, this applies to girls as well. And there are always going to be people who are willing to take advantage of people who are like that, but that's not really a relationship, you know?

Personally, I would favor someone who could hold their own in an argument over some interesting topic, who has a strong personality of their own, but is not an asshole. Which would mean being thoughtful and respectful. Seeing me as an equal is important. Of course, I would hold myself to the same standard.

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sed tamen ira procul absit, cum qua nihil recte fieri, nihil considerate potest.

[all good things]

Girls who go for bad guys are usually not too nice themselves, so if you get dumped for being nice then she probably wasnt worth it. That said, clingyness etc is a real turn off. Would you like to have a night out with your mates and contantly have your girlfriend latched onto you? Being a nice guy is good but give each other your own space.

[Steveo]

Just be a bitter, resentful, spiteful, hate filled bastard like me.

You have to live with the fact that alcohol becomes your friend, but it's less hassle that way.

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Set your goals way too high so I can laugh when you fail.

[nice guy]

Ive often been called a 'nice guy' by girls and my problem seems to be that I come across as too keen, or that I misinterpret her signals. I dont think of myself as all that unopinionated or anything, but I seem to have no luck. Im in my third year now and have only had one real relationship since coming to uni. Where am I going wrong???

[DrAlex]

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/ ... guys.shtml

I read this a while ago and it opened my eyes.

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[big_phil]

hey don't worry mate. I was in exactly the same position and i'm now with the most wonderful girl. I class myself as a nice guy and for too long thought i was doing something wrong.Just carry on being yourself-it's worth the wait

Quoting nice guy from 23:27, 5th May 2006
Ive often been called a 'nice guy' by girls and my problem seems to be that I come across as too keen, or that I misinterpret her signals. I dont think of myself as all that unopinionated or anything, but I seem to have no luck. Im in my third year now and have only had one real relationship since coming to uni. Where am I going wrong???

[Guest]

I love nice guys - if I see you smiling about something or go to help a friend, you've got me interested. I think you also need just a little self-confidence; I'm not remotely turned off by under-confidence, but just a tiny bit of self-esteem and self-belief is good. I also like people generally who try to do the right thing, even if others are disagreeing. I repeat - nice guys are completely where it's at for me. If you think you're one and you're unhappily single, I'd say you simply haven't got to know the right person to properly appreciate you yet. You will!

[awwwwww]

Quoting Ragamuffin_artist from 17:25, 2nd May 2006
Just out of curiosity, to what extent is being a 'nice guy' a turn off? Or isn't it?

awww seriously though nice guys are great!!! what a girl really wants is something exciting thats why we go for the "bad boys" whilst they're really attractive they loose interest quick! we want someone who's different to us, have their own opinions, taste and friends. clearly let her know your interested, she'll be flattered but dont be too clinging. so the ultimate guy would be "nice" but have a strong personality and show her a bit of excitement!!!

good luck!

[Nymphomanic]

'Nice guys' are just guys who are too ugly to have had a girl friend and therefore have nto shown themselves up to be jerks yet

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I read most of the night and go south in winter - wasteland

[bubbles]

Nice guys are exactly that. Nice. I guess that means different things to different people but to me it means that a guy is thoughtful, kind and caring. 'Nice' isnt the best word to decribe things I guess. I wish there was some nice guys at st andrews... havent found one yet!

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There is no dream and no waking up. This is today.

[Rufus]

Quoting nymphomanic from 20:34, 21st Aug 2006
'Nice guys' are just guys who are too ugly to have had a girl friend and therefore have nto shown themselves up to be jerks yet

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I read most of the night and go south in winter - wasteland

Yes, you think that.

[emerald_lady]

"Nice" is one of those words which i feel is very bland and meaningless. There is a difference between "charming, honest and romantic" and "nice".
Personally, I like men to have some sort of character. It's good to have something to latch onto (no dirty comments please ) something that makes them who they are. Being romantic, honest and kind are good qualities to have but they are not a turn off. Girls like guys to have character. However if your character is as above...well then you are one lucky guy!