by Fionnlagh on Fri Oct 08, 2004 4:26 pm
I was like you when I left school, and while I'm still never going to be loud, I don't really have a problem anymore.
I always found I was shy because I didn't know what to say or do, and i felt uncomfortable, nervous and out of place. I'm going to assume you're the same, and hope that it helps.
First thing I would suggest, is smile at people, particularly those you see everyday, in the corridors or kitchen-mates perhaps? If you do that, then they might well be pretty friendly to you next time. you might then find it a little less stressful
Secondly, I found that joining societies and sports was a bit daunting on my own,so if you're the same, find slightly easier things to do. I'm guessing you're first year, and so in halls. I run a charity video night on sundays in new hall, we just sit and watch movies, and i know the same is done in macintosh i think. Have a look see if there's something like that in your hall, and just go down, bite the bullet, and strike up a conversation when the dvd player breaks.
Those are things you can do, but for just general advice, don't worry about it. It's only the end of week 2, you will meet people to be friends with, and you will get more confident. And as you get more confident, it becomes so much easier. Confidence is all you need, and that will come. As someone who went through the same thing, I guarentee it.
And if you learn how not to be shy around certain members of the opposite sex, I'll want to hear from you.
hope i helped
[edited cos i pressed post too soon]