Sex lovers V Virgins

[Guest]

Most of my friends that I know aren't virgins, although I still have a significant number of friends who are. There is always differences in opinion on this subject and I was just interested to see the differences in guys and girls thoughts...........

[bramble]

Ok i dont really know what you are trying to find out, but heres my take on things. I'm a girl and not a virgin, but among both girlie and boy mates its probably split down the middle as to who is a virgin and who isnt. I'm in third year and most of my friends are too, although i have academic family in first year. My opinion is that it doesnt really matter as to whether you are a virgin or not, or how many people youve slept with for that matter, as long as you are happy, safe and your first time is as good an experience as possible. Everybody has different life experiences and therefore will have different experiences with sex. I for one certainly would not judge you if you were a virgin, inexperienced or experienced.


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[MadDog20/20]

I was going to write a rant here but this is actually an honest opinion.

Here is the deal from a DECENT GUY's point of view.

Hooking up with virgins is a nightmare. As a guy I prefer dating girls that have been around the block a few times so that when they end up with me their asshole detectors have been properly calibrated and they appreciates that they are onto a good thing.

I know you can 'date' and still be a virgin, but its not the same is it?

Seriously, what is the point in being a virgin? NOBODY CARES. God doesn't even care. If God didn't want you to have sex, he wouldn't have given you a vadge. I'm not saying be a slut, nobody likes a slut either, but there is no point in denying yourself fun either.

Also, don't worry about 'saving it for somebody special'. Whoever you hook up with first, it's almost certainly going to end in tears sooner or later and then he won't be so special anymore anyway.

[upallnight]

wow, way to inspire confidence !!

[Senethro]

I agree with the ending in tears. I think I know of one couple who stayed together after losing their virginity, but they're really weird and have been together for years. They're even making a long distance relationship work!!!! They're the only people around whom I'll curtail an anti-love tirade, because they're the only ones who have got it right.

[Pender Native]

I'm still with the person I lost my virginity to, although no one is more surprised then me. When we started going out when I was in first year I was a virgin but he wasn't and I certainly didn't expect it to last, and neither did anyone else (Colin!) but we just went on and on and now we're engaged so he might possibly be the only guy I ever sleep with. Which sounds a a bit Victorian but I'm not complaining because the sex is great. And if Mad Dog's a decent guy, I'd hate to meet a git!

[MadDog20/20]

Dry your eyes bitch.

I really am a good guy. Get over yourself.

[Jesser]

Hold on here dudes, I think were confusing honesty and being a d1ck. Maddog is just telling it how it is!

[novium]

[s]Jesser wrote on 14:03, 24th Feb 2005:
Hold on here dudes, I think were confusing honesty and being a d1ck. Maddog is just telling it how it is!


given statements he's made in the past, I think we can be fairly certain he's just an ass.

[rae]

actually, he's lovely. he just knows how to be offensive. Sorry MadDog - blown your cover there.

[rae]

[s]MadDog20/20 wrote on 12:59, 24th Feb 2005:
Dry your eyes bitch.


although he *could* do with watching the language.

[Angeleyes]

It seems clear that everyone has their own personal opinion on this topic.

I PERSONALY think it shouldn't matter whether someone is a virgin or not. There must be a connection when you are attracted to someone and if your planning to go further than a one night stand with someone then it shouldn't matter.

I would never and never have judged someone on their sexual experiences. Everyone has different beliefs and some people may have gone through a bad experience.

Sure sex does help and yeah we all enjoy it but it seems to me from this thread that guys have more of a problem about it than the girls

[flossy]

Virgins may be problematic for the boys to handle, but I'd rather date a virgin than someone with a reputation for being a slut anyday. Yes, I know there's a big middle ground of people who have sex and aren't "sluts" but I'm just pointing out which of the two extremes I'd prefer.

Anyone seen Hollyoaks recently? We had a Lisa-STI sweepstake and I won! Go me! (No symptoms- c'mon it was obvious which one!)

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[Devilzchild]

Does it actually matter?
I mean everyone was a virgin at some point. It's not as if you have to walk around telling everyone you are a virgin - it's just something that is a fact of life.


And for the record - just because you have lots of sex or enjoy lots of sex does not make you a slut!

[novium]

[s]flossy wrote on 21:33, 24th Feb 2005:

Anyone seen Hollyoaks recently? We had a Lisa-STI sweepstake and I won! Go me! (No symptoms- c'mon it was obvious which one!)

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Which one was it, i missed the last five minutes.....

[Rilla]

[s]novium wrote on 16:15, 24th Feb 2005:
given statements he's made in the past, I think we can be fairly certain he's just an ass.


although i agree that he does come out with lots of rubbish on the sinner, (and he's hardly the only one), maddog really is a very nice guy. the best friend anyone could ask for. sometimes he can be quite blunt about things, which can hurt, but on reflection, as someone else said, honesty can hurt sometimes, and on balance, its better to have someone being honest.

and on the whole virginity thing, who cares! i dont think it matters at all. though it is always good and nice to have someone knowing what they're doing.

[flossy]

[s]novium wrote on 11:45, 25th Feb 2005:
[s]flossy wrote on 21:33, 24th Feb 2005:[i]

Anyone seen Hollyoaks recently? We had a Lisa-STI sweepstake and I won! Go me! (No symptoms- c'mon it was obvious which one!)

Which one was it, i missed the last five minutes.....


Chlamydia-- although I think syphilis would make a better storyline!

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[Angeleyes]

I totally agree with you flossy

[novium]

[s]Rilla wrote on 15:25, 25th Feb 2005:
[s]novium wrote on 16:15, 24th Feb 2005:[i]
given statements he's made in the past, I think we can be fairly certain he's just an ass.


although i agree that he does come out with lots of rubbish on the sinner, (and he's hardly the only one), maddog really is a very nice guy. the best friend anyone could ask for. sometimes he can be quite blunt about things, which can hurt, but on reflection, as someone else said, honesty can hurt sometimes, and on balance, its better to have someone being honest.

and on the whole virginity thing, who cares! i dont think it matters at all. though it is always good and nice to have someone knowing what they're doing.
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you can excuse my misjudging him, it was threads about things like all women being whores that led me to believe he's an ass.

Although I will take your word for it that he isn't so in person.

[LonelyPilgrim]

Coming from a land where the people who believe 'premarital sex means an eternity in Hell' are the folks beside you in the checkout aisle at the store, and not some crazy wacko with a sign outside the Union... essentially meant that my upbringing vis a vis sex was pretty messed up.

When you grow up being taught that sex is this fantastic, earthshattering, spirtual, soul-reviving, tender, loving experience you are bound and determined to be horribly disappointed when you find out that a) you don't really know what you're doing, b) she's impatient, c) you're too damn nervous to enjoy it, and d) thanks to inexperiance it's over all too quickly. No souls revived, earth isn't shattered.

That said, I'm quite glad I'm not a virgin anymore, because once you get the hang of it, it's really very fun, an excellent way to relieve stress, and it's one of those skills you can enjoy improving. I will say that now, I don't have any desire to be in a relationship without sex... that's what friends are for, and I don't really feel up to deflowering anyone quite yet. So to all you virgins out there, I do respect you, but you're not for me, my apologies.

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