by Tigger on Mon May 01, 2006 8:08 pm
I've been through this. My ex was having a horrible time, she had lost her grandfather, became unmotivated, had problems at uni, failed her exams in may then her resits, and just hit an all time l. we talked, she said she hated the uni, her job, and life in st. andrews in general. i asked her why she was staying, and her words were, because of you. I split up with her there and then, not because i didnt love her, but because i knew that while she was here she wouldnt get happy. it was the hardest thing i ever had to do, and the stupidest thing ever, as i loved her more than life itself. she ended up staying around, didnt go home to get away from here, but eventually, she met a nice guy, got a promotion, and is doing great. we no longer speak, but the moral is, if she is having a bad time, it might partly be because of loyalty to you that she isnt doing something productive about it. i still to this day feel a crunch when i see her, and regret splitting up, but i know she is happier than i could ever have made her, shes moved on with her life, and im thankful for it. keep the faith, and discuss it with her. she might thank you for being honest in the long run.
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My Wings Are Like A Shield of Steel...
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My Wings Are Like A Shield of Steel...
(Claire Raynor)