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by **Nymphomanic** on Thu Aug 10, 2006 9:53 am

I recently lent a dress (Worth over £100 - my ball gown ) to a friend for a night. She is american and she took the dress home with her, although she promised she'd give it back before she left. She lived in the same village as me in france and has left totally now.

We were e-mailing for a while but when i asked about the dress she just dropped contact with me and stopped answering my e-mails. This is my only ball gown and I do love it.

She was a close friend and seemed really nice. I have no idea why she is being like this. I know it might not seem worth fighting over - but I'm not wealthy like she is, and an £100 dress means a lot to me.

Mm Mother makes excuses for her - 'oh she's such a nice girl. She's probably just forgotten' - but I fail to understand why she stops e-mailing when I ask about the dress. I was considering sending her a cheque in the post for the postage and a cold note - 'with thanks in advance for returning my dress promptly' - although would this be too nasty.

I have asked nicely so many times and am getting upset/worried about it. I know it's only a dress, it's also my only good dress.

I do want to give her the beneifit of the doubt but am really angry. Am i right to be furious?

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by **Thalia** on Thu Aug 10, 2006 12:42 pm

Yes, of course you have a right to be angry - she's buggered off with an expensive dress of yours. The fact is, if she's moved away and doesn't want to return the dress, then there's probably not much you can do.

But you can always keep trying to get it back.

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by **Fozzy Bear** on Thu Aug 10, 2006 12:57 pm

yip, if i was in your position, i'd be seriously pissed off. i'm assuming this is the dress you mentioned a while ago that was a birthday present, meaning you have even more reason to hate this theif. (cause that's what she is).

you could writing her a letter asking for it back (or if she lives with her folks, send THEM a letter telling them what's happened). or do you have a phone number for her or her house. if she's not replying to emails, that's probably the only way to get in contact with her without making a trip to the US.

you say she was in the same village as you, was she in a hotel or staying with relatives?
and yeah, your mother's attitude seems to be kinda strange considering this "friend" has run off with a £100 dress.

in answer to your question, are you allowed to be furious?
YES!

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by **Thalia** on Thu Aug 10, 2006 4:11 pm

Hmm, yeah - i don't think my mum would be very happy with me or the other girl if i leant an expensive birthday present to someone and they didn't give it back :-P

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by **Nymphomanic** on Thu Aug 10, 2006 9:05 pm

She was on placement, working in a hotel, and she did seem lovely - was here four three months and I got to know and trust her, then leant her the dress for her last night, next thing I knew she'd taken it to america.

I am just really upset and angry about this, although she was close and i do want to not think badly of her - just difficult after what she has done. She did look good in the dress, but so do I. I know at the time I was a little thinjner than I am now (stress) and it fitted her more thanit fitted me, but it would fit me now, and it was no reason to take the thing. I thought maybe if I sent her a letter, but am u nsure whether she'd reply as she hasn't answered my e-mails.

She really made everyone in the village like her - and apparently told some of the other girls that I had given her the dress as it didn't fit me and was now being unreasonable and demanding a present back - but that it totally untrue. iu leant it to her with alist of conditions, ie. - if you wear this you don't smoke, you return it in the mornign, you don't stain it or get too wasted. if it had been a present I wouldn't have said this and she knew that I wasnted it back, which was why she didn't tell me when she went to the US. I am actually really ridiculously angry.

Although I did really like and trust her, other wise I wouldn't have leant her it. Am so annoyed though.

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by **the Empress** on Fri Aug 11, 2006 2:05 pm

you have to stop saying you think this girl is nice. She stole your birthday dress; admit she's a bitch, at least to yourself. I'd try writing a letter, with pre-paid postage for the dress (providing it's not too much).

by **trouble** on Sat Aug 12, 2006 10:42 am

yeah, she's a theif in effect. and the fact that she's dropped all contact means that either she intended to right from the beginning or she's damaged it in some way and is too upset to give it back. i think the cheque in the post is a good idea.

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by **Fozzy Bear** on Sat Aug 12, 2006 5:54 pm

i think giving her money is a bad idea.
why should YOU pay money to get something which belongs to YOU back?

she's stolen it, you just need to tell her you want it back and that you never gave it to her.
and if all the other people in the town think you gave her it, tell them the truth.

dont take this crap lying down and STOP SAYING SHE'S NICE. She's a bitch who stole your best dress!!!!!

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by **Bizarre Atheist** on Sun Aug 13, 2006 12:02 am

FIND HER AND DESTROY HER.

I'll even help. She's made *me* angry.

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by **novium** on Sun Aug 13, 2006 3:50 am

get her phone number. And take no note of what time zone she is in :-P

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by **Nymphomanic** on Wed Aug 16, 2006 10:54 am

Spoke to her and feel a little mean. She still hadn't unpacked one of her cases and believed she had lost the dress and was too scared to say. Anyway, she found it today as the last case was unpacked and wrote to me, and is sending it back.

Srry if I was awful abot her but may till now is a long time.

Anyway, i get the dress back and looks like I keep a friend as well - she wass apologetic, she just got scared she had lost it and wasn't sure what to do

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by **Darshybaby** on Wed Aug 16, 2006 5:09 pm

Quoting nymphomanic from 11:54, 16th Aug 2006
Spoke to her and feel a little mean. She still hadn't unpacked one of her cases and believed she had lost the dress and was too scared to say. Anyway, she found it today as the last case was unpacked and wrote to me, and is sending it back.

Srry if I was awful abot her but may till now is a long time.

Anyway, i get the dress back and looks like I keep a friend as well - she wass apologetic, she just got scared she had lost it and wasn't sure what to do

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Glad you found it! Although slight puzzled...if you had unpacked one suitcase and thought "oh no I can't find the dress, I might have lost it...", would your automatic reaction, not be to open the other suitcase and confirm whether you have lost it or not?!?

Well either way...glad there is a happy outcome both with the dress and with the friend!

by **just_looking** on Thu Aug 17, 2006 4:12 pm

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