Is it worth it?

[Han]

Ok. So, have just graduated and left St Andrews for the south of England. Now have met a guy through a friend at whose wedding we got really close and slept together (but only slept, too tired/drunk/amongst company for anything to happen) except he lives in Warwick/Edinburgh. Have been bantering away for the last couple of days and I really like him (and I'm fairly certain he likes me)...

Is this worth pursuing?

[munchingfoo]

Do you mean it would be a long distance relationship? If so, I would suggest no. Long distance relationship are hard with a person you have been with for a while to get to know them, I'd hate to think how taxing it would be for a new relationship.

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[TheUnixKid]

Only you know the answer to that question I'm afraid.

[Guest]

Of course it's worth it. How much will you regret it if you don't try?

[beeny]

Are you sure you're not reading way too much into the situation? The way your post reads, you're only supposing he likes you too. Not to be harsh, but could it not have been just a one night thing? Emotions run high when drinking at the best of times, particularly at weddings.

If he does like you, I'm afraid I would still have to say that it's not the best idea- Munchingfoo is right, long distance rarely works out for people who have been together for years before being parted, you would have virtually no chance with a new relationship.

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'But what do I know? I'm a bear; I suck the heads off fish.'

[Grant]

Why not give it a go? You've got nothing to lose really.

Even if its hard and fails, at least you'll have no regrets or "what ifs" that will haunt you.

The fact is, it could work. Not every long distance relationship fails, I know a few success stories as well as failures. Even then, the failures lasted a couple of years - thats pretty good going for any uni relationship regardless of distance involved if you ask me.

[Han]

Thanks for all the advice, guys - it's useful to get some perspective on it all. I think for the moment I'll play it by ear and see how things go once we're both settled again...

[Tigger]

Regret the things you have done, not the things you hvaen't.
In other words, Never have the What Ifs? going through your mind.
A new relationship over a long distance can be fun, there is no pressure, and the irregular visits make seeing each other more exciting!!

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My Wings Are Like A Shield of Steel...
(Claire Raynor)

[sweet]

I know a very hsppy couple who met while living several hundred miles apart, they're now married. It was worth it for them....

[lts2]

Ah - long distant relationships...

In my experience they are more likely to work if you already know the other person well/been together for a long time and there is an end point in sight. If not then you start to ask yourself the question quite quickly - is this worth it?