by Guest on Sat Aug 21, 2004 10:07 am
I just posted above, but I thought about it and I didn't really answer your question. From my own experience, cutting myself was not a problem as much as a symptom of a problem -- for me, severe depression.
I don't know if I can really explain this, but I will try. You mentioned alcoholism as a problem and I agree that it is, but the act of "drinking/being drunk" itself is not a problem, it is a symptom . . . if that makes sense. To further explain: most people at this university drink alcohol. That doesn't necessarily mean that they need to be in an alcoholic treatment program. Most people would say that the time to seek help is when the person drinking can no longer control it, i.e. they "need" to do it and use it as a coping mechanism.
My best guess is that your friend is doing what I did and is cutting herself as a coping mechanism, sometimes for a sense of release, punishment, or even anger toward others. I know you know this, but even for people who cut themselves it is not fun. Obviously normal, healthy people do not cut themselves. I guess what I am getting at is that, in the way that consistant and uncontrolable drinking is a symptom of alcoholism, self harm is a symptom of some other problem, likely depression, possibly combined with being a very emotionally sensative person (Emotional Intesity Disorder - partly genetic, partly learned).
I think what I would stress most is that it is 99.9% treatable. It is not an instant fix either, but it is SOOOO worth it to give either medication, counseling or both a shot. Please encourage her to seek help.