by sarahbeth on Wed Oct 02, 2002 7:54 am
Um, where do I start? Girls don't always want the "nice guy". That doesn't mean we don't want the guys we go out with to be nice. You have to be charming. Okay, how do I explain this? First off I'd like to say that in college, most people just want to have fun. I know I don't want to be tied down in a "serious relationship" at 20 years old. Who wants all that drama? I want to see what's out there before I worry about "the one". If you are too nice and not charming, then a girl will not see you as interesting. What do I mean by charming? Glad you asked. For me, a guy should make me laugh, flatter me (I'm not talking about having to give me compliments 24/7 to keep my self esteem high), and make me feel like he can be with a million other girls (note the word *feel*, don't actually be with a million other girls). People want what they think they cannot have. Have some confidence without acting conceded. So your nice. But are you creative, adventurous, exciting? Oh, and don't complain about never finding a girlfriend. Who likes to hear about your problems? I hope this helps. Remember that you have to wait for love. If you rush to be with the first girl you set your eyes on, you might miss the girl who drives you wild. Enjoy yourself and relationships will just happen.