by exnihilo on Thu Dec 18, 2003 10:40 am
Hmm, interesting. My policy on this sort of thing is pretty simple. I am giving Christmas presents to a few of my friends because they are celebrating Christmas. I don't expect any in return, because I am celebrating Chanukah. It is, like so many things, about proportion and perspective. I would give a wedding present to someone who was getting married, but I wouldn't expect them to give me something because it isn't about me.
The point being that it is a question of being respectful of other people. I would hope people who are aware of my Judiasm would have the decency not to be "Merry Christmas"-ing me and, assuming they remembered, I would be happy for them to wish me Happy Chanukah. I live in a country that is majority Christian, so I have no problem seeing Christmas decorations all over the place, I certainly don't take it as an attack on me or on my faith. Equally well, I live in an area which is predmominantly Muslim, and I have no problem with that either.
However, if you seriously think that wishing people Merry Christmas regardless of their faith is not offensive I think you've missed something. Either you have so secularised Christmas that all you're saying is Happy Tuesday or you're a bit insensitive. Walking up to someone you know to be Jewish and saying Happy Christmas will most likely be taken as a gesture of ill-judged goodwill, but could easily be read as "you don't believe in Christ, but that's just stupid, and you're wrong, so there". Say it by all means, just exercise some awareness of others when doing it would be my point.
I think ultimately we're confusing people talking about / displaying their faith with people denigrating that of others. Which is dangerous, but not unprecedented. If I were to say I was proud to be British (and I am), there is a body of people who would call me a nationalist for it. Despite not saying anything against anyone else whatever, merely that I am proud of who I am. And I think the French approach on this one is very, very wrong.