the age factor in relationships..should this be a big deal?

[highway_to_hell1982]

I have always been attracted to older women, about 5-10 years older (sexy of course - eg Krista Allen, Tweed, Gena and Ali Landry, etc - not the wrinkly type!!), but notice that people always make a big deal about guys dating older girls, yet people never seem to complain about vice versa. Why is that?

My last two girlfriends were of ages 28 and 32, and I am 21, yet though people might think such age differences is crazy, with me and them we never gave the age factor any thought, it never occurred to us and was never an issue (in fact, kinda made it sexier in some instances..but I will not indulge in any gory details).

My question is, is it such a big deal that young guys have attractions towards older women? Is it a crime? My own reasons for finding them attractive is because of the sense of maturity, self confidence and experience they have, as well as a high stature compared to the young and growing self - bringing them down and dominating them with my intense love makes a kinda sexy sensation!

Unless this is all criminal??

[Buzzboy]

If you like a bit of milf then you like a bit of milf. Fair play to ya. Personally if she likes me and I like her then that's all I need.


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[Ashley]

Not criminal to me, either.

My girlfriend has a few years on me, too.

[Precious]

If you're both happy then it's no big deal. The only time it ever might be is if it was an underage sex issue, but from what you've said it's not, so if you want an age gap relationship there's no problem.

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[SiouxieSioux]

You seem to fancy porn actress'.......well, I only fancy older men. The youngest I've dated is 28 but I prefer men from about 35-40.

[Aeneus]

Hi there,

I am 19 and just recently dated someone who was 24. We really connected with each other, had known each other for a while and decided to go for it. I felt that she was one of the kindest, easiest to talk to women I had ever met, as well as being undeniably hot. Although it didn't work out, it wasn't beacuse of our age difference at all. If there is a mutual attraction between two people there's nothing you can do about it, and it's most likely there for a reason.

Having said that, I don't think I would go out with anyone who was more than 6 years older than me. No reason, just because.

[Orphax]

If you're attracted to each other, and you want the same things from the relationship, then go for it. Too bad for other people, if they don't like it and wish to make a big deal.

[EviLTwiN]

it shouldn't make any difference in a relationship i agree...

on a side note i thought it was funny that you described the "details" of your relationship as "gory"...

also, "dominating them with my intense love"... you sound like you should be a porn film script writer

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[Tinlegs the elder]

I can't see anything wrong with age gap relationships, if you're happy together, you're happy together and if age makes you feel uncomfortable about being together then maybe you shouldn't be together.

I'm also speaking from the view point that I am a 23 year old female, going out with someone who is 15 years older than me, but it makes no difference to us. I don't see him as being particularly older than me and he has got past the stage of playing silly games as some younger men are wont to do. So in answer to the question- any age factor (providing it is legal) should not be a big deal and if it is, maybe you should reconsider the relationship.

[Prophet Tenebrae]

Unless you're thinking about having children, it's not really going to be a huge issue and 5-10 years is nothing.

[highway_to_hell1982]

[s]Prophet Tenebrae wrote on 11:30, 19th Dec 2003:
Unless you're thinking about having children, it's not really going to be a huge issue and 5-10 years is nothing.




Why is it an issue if thinking about children? My relationship with my 28 yr old ex was going to be so close to marriage and living with each other, before that my 32 yr old ex and I had a '9 1/2 weeks' kind of relationship with the extreme sexual tension in the air. Either way, sex would not be an issue, neither should children, if we are comfortable in each others company...?

Elaborate on what you meant by 'Unless you're thinking about having children' please.

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[s]highway_to_hell1982 wrote on 16:09, 18th Dec 2003:
My question is, is it such a big deal that young guys have attractions towards older women?

No cares unless you're famous. Are you famous? I'm guessing the answer is no. Therefore no one cares.

Move along.

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[s]Buzzboy wrote on 16:31, 18th Dec 2003:
If you like a bit of milf then you like a bit of milf. Fair play to ya. Personally if she likes me and I like her then that's all I need.




what do you mean by 'milf'?

[rubbermuffin]

I wouldn't like to go out with anyone the same age as my sister or older...it would be weird.

And MILF = mum i'd like to fuck

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[Bonnie]

I'd date older men, any day. I'm actually attracted to slightly older men much more than ones my own age or a bit younger. But, as I'm only 20 (a fact that shocks a good deal of people that know me), younger males tend to be boys rather than men in mental maturity.
The other day I was telling my friends "I don't want to date boys anymore" and someone misinterpreted that. Let the truth be known. I would like to date MEN, regardless of their age. I think many women (and maybe some men) would agree with me on that.

[Phoebe Stoves]

[s]Bonnie wrote on 15:25, 19th Dec 2003:
I'd date older men, any day. I'm actually attracted to slightly older men much more than ones my own age or a bit younger.

I agree completely- older men are much more alluring.....not alluring in a yukki, i will give you sweets if you come with me way, though.

[lucycath]

I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 24, and it's not a problem, as he is probably less mature than I am. I feel like his mom sometimes- having said that he's a cool guy.

[Jandea]

[s]highway_to_hell1982 wrote on 16:09, 18th Dec 2003:
- bringing them down and dominating them with my intense love makes a kinda sexy sensation!

Unless this is all criminal??


That comment sounds quite sadistic.

[highway_to_hell1982]

[s]Unregisted User Jandea wrote on 23:40, 19th Dec 2003:
[s]highway_to_hell1982 wrote on 16:09, 18th Dec 2003:[i]
- bringing them down and dominating them with my intense love makes a kinda sexy sensation!

Unless this is all criminal??


That comment sounds quite sadistic.
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whateva!!

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[s]highway_to_hell1982 wrote on 14:42, 20th Dec 2003:



whateva!!


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