Love?

[Guest]

How do you know when you're in love, or when somebody loves you?

[mia_bt]

if your in love you know it and dont need to ask! you cant stop the feeling even for a minute all you want to do/ think about/ see is them, if your properly in love you will know

[Orion]

love... love changes everything, brings you glory, brings you shame

nothing in the world will ever be the same.

or, it could be said that

love... love will tear us apart... again.

[CarolynSD]

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[Guest]

[s]CarolynSD wrote on 08:42, 27th May 2004:
love means nothing. It is used to cover a variety of feelings. If you feel strongly for them, take it at face value. If you cannot be away from them without pain, you are emotionally attached/dependent (in a way that I find undesirable). If they make you happy when you are around them or make your life seem better when around them, then you appreciate them. It is much simpler if you forget the word love, try to understand what you feel, and then use the word love only as needed in conversation (personal or otherwise).
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Love is the best thing in the world. And it's not for cynics - they don't appreciate it as they've obviously never had it. Hence the cynicism.

[franklyscallop]

A cynic is a frustrated romantic. That's why romantic heroes are cynical . . and why they get the girl:) [or vise versa]

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[Anon.]

I've never been in love, but I would imagine that however wonderful it might be, it would also be extremely inconvenient.

[David Bean]

Carolyn wasn't being cynical nor even especially unromantic - she was merely disassociating herself from a term she believed to be nebulous and unhelpful. I don't happen to agree with her, as I think that the word 'love' as used conversationally has a lot of value in describing one's feelings for another, but I think she makes a jolly good case.

Also, I don't see why love should necessarily be inconvenient; certainly it has the potential to be thus, but I, for one, have found it to be quite the reverse. It all depends on the circumstances.

[CarolynSD]

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[munchingfoo]

I am going to spill my heart here, so anyone not wanting a sob story look away now.

I recently split up with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years. I split up with her because I thought I wasn't in love with her anymore. Recently I have a lot of time to think and I realised that I didn't know what love was, so how could I know I wasn't in love with a girl? I began to realise that it wasn't the girl I was in love with, but the feeling of hugging, sharing emotions, and quality time. The problem, as I have now come to realise, was that this feeling could be recreated by any suitably kind hearted girl. Now if any person could create this feeling then I doubt it is what most people would call love. I therefore feel that I don't know what love is, and won't do until I find a girl who makes all of the feelings above happen whilst, at the same time, i'd know that no-one else could match those feelings.

Now I know a lot of people have strong ideas about what love is, but I think it would be wrong for anyone who hasn't been in a long relationship to comment. Solely for the reason that, I have thought I was in love, only to have my mind changed.

I think love is inexplicable purely for the reason that everyone must feel love in different ways.


P.S.

Reading this back it sounds like I feel that spliting up with my g/f was a mistake. Although I was so happy, and everything seemed perfect there was that something lacking as explained above. I still get feelings of what I thought were love about this girl, but have come realise that until I know what love is, I will never know if these feelings are genuine, and it is only fair to stay apart for her sake.

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[Eliot Wilson]

I speak only from my own experience, of course, but you know. You may not be able to explain or articulate it, but you know.

Which may not be hugely helpful.

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[CarolynSD]

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[cockjockey]

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident

[Wong]

Nice quote, but the chances of it being taken seriously were diminished by it being quoted by someone called "cockjockey".

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That's the curse of humans - born in passion, you destroy

[Marco Biagi]

[s]Anon. wrote on 23:12, 27th May 2004:
I've never been in love, but I would imagine that however wonderful it might be, it would also be [i]extremely inconvenient.
[/i]

Oh believe me, inconvenient doesn't even begin to describe it.


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[katiem]

[s]Marco Biagi wrote on 17:01, 28th May 2004:
[s]Anon. wrote on 23:12, 27th May 2004:[i]
I've never been in love, but I would imagine that however wonderful it might be, it would also be [i]extremely inconvenient.
[/i]

Oh believe me, inconvenient doesn't even begin to describe it.
[/i]

So true.

[wearing just socks and a phone]

Reading over munchingfoo's post sounds strangely familiar, except with me in the role of his girlfriend (don't worry though, i'm not your ex)

it sucks when that happens - when you love somebody and feel good about yourself because of it and they just see you as somebody who gives them hugs and is nice to have around.

my self esteem just took a fatal blow. not good.

[Tinlegs the elder]

Love to me is realising that you can't live with out that one special person and proposing to them at the hall ball and being ok with the fact that suddenly everyone wants to help organise the wedding even if it is in 4 years time. I think he must love me, cos he's prepared to wear a kilt on the day and survived the endless questioning from my friends at the engagement party on Friday night.

Thought I might make this a slightly happier thread..
Tinlegs

[David Bean]

"The supreme happiness of life is the conviction of being loved for yourself, or, more correctly, being loved in spite of yourself"

- Victor Hugo

[jennyo]

Here's mine then:

'I like not only to be loved, but to be told that I am loved. The realm of silence is large enough beyond the grave' - George Eliot


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