Am I being paranoid? I miss my friend!

[Maisha]

Ok right, I dunno how clear I'm gonna b but lets try. Ok.. now I have a mate (opposite sex) and we used to get on really well at the begining of the 1st semester (well I thought we did) Neways, it all went a bit oops after a drunken nite but I thought we were cool about it. Now its like my friend is just really indifferent towards me and I feel like every time I talk to them they're just finding me irritating so I try not to talk to them as much anymore. I dunno if I'm just being a paranoid idiot or what but it really hurts that we seem so distant and I miss us just hanging out 2gether. Please help! I dunno if I've explained it well enough but I just want sum advice (even if its just to tell me to stop whining and get a life!)
Thanx
[hr]Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity

[Paranoid]

Theres only one paranoid person in this town buster....

Seriously though, I have had the exact same thing happen to me, although I had known my friend since I was 7 and had a drunken encounter with her 10 years later. We're still the best of friends though and it was mainly cause we were open about it and realised our friendship was worth more than any awkward moments over a 'mistake'. I think we actually took it as confirmation of how much we care for each other and so is quite flattering. But that's digressing from your problem. Really you should just try and sit her down and explain how you miss her as a friend and realise that mistakes we're made on this drunken night. It sounds like she feels bad about it and is worried that it will happen again if you become such close friends again, and if thats the case you might have to settle for a more distant relationship. You should still sit down and be open about it though, and at the very least you can find out where you stand in her eyes...

Hope that helps in some small way

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[rubbermuffin]

Perhaps they're pissed off because you lack the ability to spell words correctly.
[hr]'I wish a real rain would come...'

[Paranoid]

...Was that really necessary?

[hr]..I've got this pain down all the diodes on my left side...

[rubbermuffin]

No. I'm sorry. But I am fed up with the txt msg culture. That's not needed either.
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'I wish a real rain would come...'

[Nickel]

Actually I think the abreviations used in txt msgs were first used on the internet. So it is more an internet culture that you are objecting to. An objection that may be somewhat out of place on a website.

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nickel

[Prophet Tenebrae]

Of, FFS can't a single sinner thread be around for more than 5 minutes without descending into utterly petty and pointless pedantry?

Anyway - to return to the actual point... It's not uncommon for things to go on between two people but if you're not careful it can compromise a friendship.

It sounds as though you do what many people do and think that as it was a one off, that it was ok and maybe you didn't really need to talk about it. So talking about the problem sounds like the solution.

[rubbermuffin]

[s]Prophet Tenebrae wrote on 17:11, 21st Mar 2004:
Of, FFS can't a single sinner thread be around for more than 5 minutes without descending into utterly petty and pointless pedantry?

Anyway - to return to the actual point... It's not uncommon for things to go on between two people but if you're not careful it can compromise a friendship.

It sounds as though you do what many people do and think that as it was a one off, that it was ok and maybe you didn't really need to talk about it. So talking about the problem sounds like the solution.


Cos of course the people who buy the latest, coolest mobile phones spend all their time on the internet.

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'I wish a real rain would come...'

[iohannes]

Yes it started on the internet, but in chat rooms. When you wanted to type quickly because you were having conversations.

With predictive text messaging it is actually harder to do thinks like "2gother" and in a post like this, how much harder is it to type "be" rather than "b", it's not like there is a word limit.

[Paranoid]

Guys if you want to debate the use of abbreviations go set up another thread and let this guy have his problem answered...it's turning into a thread like the one Agnes decimated with irrevelant drivel

[hr]..I've got this pain down all the diodes on my left side...

[Maisha]

Ok people can we please drop the spelling debate now! Thank you! I still need help with figuring this out! I don't believe the drunk night IS an issue anymore because I've talked to my other friends about it (who know my mate as well) and they say my mate is fine about it so... what is it? How would I find out if it's me or not?


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Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity

[Pussycat]

Talk to them. Almost every single possible problem that comes up in a relationship or friendship is because something hasn't been communicated properly. If you talk to them you can find out what the problem is and then try to fix it but trying to second guess them might backfire.

So, just talk to them. It can't make things any worse and there's a good chance it will make things better or at least you'l have an explanation and know that you tried.

[Precious]

Ask your friend straight out whether there's any reason why they are being distant. If they give a reason, then at least you'll be able to discuss it. If they don't explain but just carry on being distant, then stuff them.

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