A Dilemma....

[otsegolectric]

Hi there, I really need advice. Recently I have made up with an ex-girlfriend, but the thing that bothers me is not that I still have feelings for her (I knew this for a long time) but that she seems to have feelings for me. I still love her as a friend but if there was a chance of anything more I don't know what to do. I'm torn between a definite friendship and a possible "something more". I don't know what is best, though I know what I want to do. Someone please help.

[rhody]

As Billy Joel would say, tell her about it. You've managed to be friends after your original relationship ended, so I can't imagine that opening your heart at this point will destroy the friendship, even if your feelings aren't reciprocated. Sometimes people who are genuinely right for each other don't get it right first time around, for whatever reason (perhaps they're simply too young), but then each later discovers that the other is really who they want. If there's even a small chance that's what's happening with you, it's worth pursuing. Go for it, I'd say.

[otsegolectric]

[s]rhody wrote on 09:54, 25th Oct 2004:
As Billy Joel would say, tell her about it. You've managed to be friends after your original relationship ended, so I can't imagine that opening your heart at this point will destroy the friendship, even if your feelings aren't reciprocated. Sometimes people who are genuinely right for each other don't get it right first time around, for whatever reason (perhaps they're simply too young), but then each later discovers that the other is really who they want. If there's even a small chance that's what's happening with you, it's worth pursuing. Go for it, I'd say.


Thanks for replying. To be honest our relationship before was not too successful, to say the least, and it's quite surprising that we're even talking now. A lot of it was misunderstanding but even so...It's strange because I'm getting on with her now better than I ever have, so that seems to make me want to try to make another go of it, but at the same time I don't want to sacrifice how things are right now. I just feel torn all the time and beginning to think I should leave it, at least for now. I feel weird posting this on a message board, never felt the need to before and I can't think of anyone I can seriously discuss this with...

[Guest]

It's hard for people to give advice when they don't know what went wrong with the relatonship previously and if those problems are still there.

But as the other guy said, talk about it. There is no problem that cannot be solved through good communication.

[otsegolectric]

you know what? everyone is shit. i think i may as well give up on everyone.

[Guest]

Did it not go well with the ex then?

[otsegolectric]

[s]Unregisted User wrote on 03:34, 10th Nov 2004:
Did it not go well with the ex then?


haven't even tried...i just know it isn't worth it, i'm just a loser twat.

[Linwe]

dont say that!!! i felt really pathetic and unwanted before i got here, then i became friends with these amazing people and one of them became my bf!!! but i really think you should talk about it. if its not meant to be, its not meant to be! if you decide not to get back together then at least you wont have the tension between you anymore. and if you have a strong friendship it should easily survive a simple question. hope we've helped.

[Guest]

[s]otsegolectric wrote on 03:37, 11th Nov 2004:
i'm just a loser twat.


People are only what they believe themselves to be.

[Cute Redhead]

[s]Unregisted User wrote on 18:20, 12th Nov 2004:
[s]otsegolectric wrote on 03:37, 11th Nov 2004:[i]
i'm just a loser twat.


People are only what they believe themselves to be.
[/i]


Hey now,

just don't start thinking that about yourself right?
I'm sure like everyone, you have a lot of qualities and stuff and you just have to believe in yourself...
I mean if you were indeed a loser twat this whole thing wouldn't be bothering you so much, you just wouldn't care...
Who knows someone great may walk into your life any moment !!!
I know it's not easy but just try and give yopurself a break...
good luck

[quarterstaff]

[s]Cute Redhead wrote on 17:56, 14th Nov 2004:
[s]Unregisted User wrote on 18:20, 12th Nov 2004:[i]
[s]otsegolectric wrote on 03:37, 11th Nov 2004:[i]
i'm just a loser twat.


People are only what they believe themselves to be.
[/i]


Hey now,

just don't start thinking that about yourself right?
I'm sure like everyone, you have a lot of qualities and stuff and you just have to believe in yourself...
I mean if you were indeed a loser twat this whole thing wouldn't be bothering you so much, you just wouldn't care...
Who knows someone great may walk into your life any moment !!!
I know it's not easy but just try and give yopurself a break...
good luck
[/i]



whereas you are simply a cute redhead. such confidence! maybe you should lend some to our man otsegolectric here

[Cute Redhead]

[s]quarterstaff wrote on 03:07, 15th Nov 2004:
[s]Cute Redhead wrote on 17:56, 14th Nov 2004:[i]
[s]Unregisted User wrote on 18:20, 12th Nov 2004:[i]
[s]otsegolectric wrote on 03:37, 11th Nov 2004:[i]
i'm just a loser twat.



whereas you are simply a cute redhead. such confidence! maybe you should lend some to our man otsegolectric here


[/i]

Well,"What's in a name??"
confidence..not so much but some times one has to have faith in him/herself to get through rough times..just trying to help!!!

xxx

[quarterstaff]

Well,"What's in a name??"
confidence..not so much but some times one has to have faith in him/herself to get through rough times..just trying to help!!!

xxx



well, if you do indeed live up to your name, i am sure you will receive no end of attention from the opposite sex (or even the same sex)... which has got to be good for the old self-belief

[Pinky but Perky]

is this ricardo by any chance?


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the knack is finding a grape that actually looks edible....damn you Tesco!