i just need to know.....

[novium]

[s]shy wrote on 16:49, 24th Nov 2004:
I know loads of nice guys...but they're friends. The guys that approach me romantically are either too old or too drunk for my liking. Sigh. I guess you just can't win...


At least you have guy friends. I miss having guy friends.

[rubbermuffin]

[s]Unregisted User wrote on 10:21, 24th Nov 2004:
I tell guys what I study (physics) and immediately they try to find a reason not to talk to me any more. I can actually see the fear appear in their face.


I don't think that's because they think you're intelligent, rather they know you're a bufty.

[hr]
'You shut your mouth / How can you say / I go about things the wrong way?'

[big_phil]

I tell guys what I study (physics) and immediately they try to find a reason not to talk to me any more. I can actually see the fear appear in their face. Should I just lie and pretend I am a silly little girl just waiting for a big, strong, intelligent man to rescue me?


I like an intelligent girl!!you can't talk about much with a stupid one!and height isn't a problem!!

[scumdeeforever]

[s]big_phil wrote on 20:17, 24th Nov 2004:
I tell guys what I study (physics) and immediately they try to find a reason not to talk to me any more. I can actually see the fear appear in their face. Should I just lie and pretend I am a silly little girl just waiting for a big, strong, intelligent man to rescue me?


I like an intelligent girl!!you can't talk about much with a stupid one!and height isn't a problem!!




if you are who i think you are big_phil, i didn't realize you did physics or that you liked both guys and girls!

seriously though people, if this is the guy I know then take it from me, take him up on his offer RIGHT NOW, he'd be well worth it!

[bramble]

So if all our reasons for not being able to find men arent valid (ie being tall or intelligent doesnt seem to bother many of the guys posting here) then where are all you single men hiding? And do you EVER approach girls? i think this is where the height thing comes in again btw - i am positive less guys will approach tall girls, ive been told that by most of my male friends
[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast

[quarterstaff]

where do we hide?

um... dunno - where do you hide?

you should try sports clubs, thesinner.net (which you are already exploiting), filmsoc, all that sort of stuff - just go do some things that are trad. male things.

beware tho - some of these guys might never have seen a girl before

[the-ally]

[s]bramble wrote on 20:24, 24th Nov 2004:
So if all our reasons for not being able to find men arent valid (ie being tall or intelligent doesnt seem to bother many of the guys posting here) then where are all you single men hiding? And do you EVER approach girls? i think this is where the height thing comes in again btw - i am positive less guys will approach tall girls, ive been told that by most of my male friends
[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast



maybe all the single ones are just a little shy, or prefer to be less traditional, ie have the girl show an interest rather than for them to initiate things and be proverbially kicked in the stones? I really only think the height thing is an issue to guys when there is a big difference, eg a guy of 5'8 with a girl of 6'.

or perhaps they just want to be young, free and single just now. relationships can bog you down / make you see your mates less / whatever. plus, you have to admit there are a lot of guys around town who are good looking and know and show it, and they make a lot of other guys feel less confident.

i also think you'll only meet the better guys for you by chance, rather than looking for them, because more often than not you find your "perfect partner" where you were least expecting them, eg the library, waiting in a queue in tesco (plenty of time there) or on a bus or something.

[md25]

[s]bramble wrote on 20:24, 24th Nov 2004:
And do you EVER approach girls?

hahahahaha

[bramble]

Who said anything about relationships? Another bone of contention with me!! Girls have needs just like guys and most of us would be happy to settle for something casual while waiting for the 'perfect partner', i mean we're all young for Goodness sake!!

[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast

[the-ally]

[s]bramble wrote on 21:04, 24th Nov 2004:
Who said anything about relationships? Another bone of contention with me!! Girls have needs just like guys and most of us would be happy to settle for something casual while waiting for the 'perfect partner', i mean we're all young for Goodness sake!!

[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast




WHOA!!! - chill out girl! just trying to address many points of view at once! i'm thinking though that you are getting slightly angry because of a lack of a guy, or is that the other way round?

[Senethro]

Just to turn the question around, purely hypothetical of course, would you go out witha guy that was 5'5?

[bramble]

well of course, providing he met other requirements!! lol only kidding!! but yeah if he wasnt bothered i wouldnt be



[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast

[novium]

[s]quarterstaff wrote on 20:45, 24th Nov 2004:
where do we hide?

um... dunno - where do you hide?

you should try sports clubs, thesinner.net (which you are already exploiting), filmsoc, all that sort of stuff - just go do some things that are trad. male things.

beware tho - some of these guys might never have seen a girl before



Yes, there do seem to be a TON of guys on the sinner message board.

Hmmm.......... scouting out some other societies......

[big_phil]

funny guy graham-and i dont like guys!!!

[scumdeeforever]

[s]big_phil wrote on 22:34, 24th Nov 2004:
funny guy graham-and i dont like guys!!!




hey, i was bein nice! and the missing italics helped

[bramble]

call me crazy but scouting seems like hard work!! Surely single men also go out to bars? If so, wheres the best hunting ground?


[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast

[novium]

[s]bramble wrote on 22:53, 24th Nov 2004:
call me crazy but scouting seems like hard work!! Surely single men also go out to bars? If so, wheres the best hunting ground?


[hr]
Never drink anything stronger than gin before breakfast



if you find out, tell me:) Actually, I hate meeting people in bars, because they are either drunk or in the process of getting there, and that's not the best way to form a good first impression.

[Gubbins]

[s]bramble wrote on 22:53, 24th Nov 2004:[i]
call me crazy but scouting seems like hard work!! Surely single men also go out to bars? If so, wheres the best hunting ground?

Depends what sort of single men you're after - ones who haven't spend all their student loan and aren't bogged up to their eyeballs in work (i.e. 1st/2nd years - if you are a 1st/2nd year and are one of the above, get worried!).

Nice guys who don't drink a lot may be found in more sedate places. Certain species of nice guys can frequently be found in "Old Mens" pubs, supping a quiet pint. For a more rounded character, I'd suggest the Cellar, Golf Place (though maybe not any more now it's changed... *sigh*), Drouthys or the Whey Pat. These also tend to be more herbivorous and less likely to attack on sight, so provocation may be necessary. They are also more likely to be pack animals.

Alternatively, try looking in not-so-obvious places like halls or in classes. Work your charms (subtly, and prepare for a long-term investment in this), and it may pay off.

As for single guys over 6', I can think of a couple... don't give up!

[maz]

ah but are they hot, straight and single was what the original poster was looking for

[Marco Biagi]

Stop looking.

It's the only way to find someone.