standysguy wrote:To be honest, if you're that broken up about it, then don't finish. Make it work. I've had to manage a long term relationship and I feel it's actually strengthened our bond.
She is
totally doing someone else.
But if you've decided that you don't want to do that, then the relationship should be that much easier to get over anyway. If you're upset about finishing, then don't. It probably means your relationship is strong enough to survive the distance.
Uh, sorry about the facetious comment. I'm
such an asshole. But I have something serious to say.
I do not think that you should measure relationships like this. Or judge their tensile strength like this. People do change, despite everything I've come to believe to the contrary, and they change based on the lives they lead, and living a life with someone can mean changing with them. Likewise being apart means different changes, which send you in different directions. You won't be more bonded by this, and it's almost inevitable.
If a relationship can survive indefinitely at great distance, devoid of shared experience, then I don't know what that says about the relationship but it doesn't say much about your growth as people, and life is growth. No offence intended, but at best long distance puts you on haitus, as people not just as lovers. If you're that much in love, go with them. If not, hell, it's up to you what you do, but I'd say that if you're not willing to sacrifice your life for love, then don't sacrifice your life for love.
- QW