What do you look for?

[Bryn]

[s]exnihilo wrote on 21:08, 20th Apr 2004:
Do you know a thing that I really, really hate? This idea that people can only have equality if they pretend that everyone is the same and that differences fdon't exist. There was nothing wrong with the original post, some people are just hyper sensitive.

That's not what I meant. You can know the differences without highlighting them.

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[exnihilo]

Pah.


[hr]The world is full of stupid people. I say we get rid of all the warning labels and let the problem take care of itself.

[Bonnie]

And for some reason I tend to go for guys with blue or greeny-blue eyes more than anything else. I used to go for guys with dark hair, but a good smile makes up for anything! And considering I'm usually the happy-go-lucky always smiling type, I'm surprised I don't have a set preference for what his attitude on life is. As long as he can keep me smiling-- either by having a good sense of humour or by being a smiley type himself. I've gone for all different types, personality wise and body-build wise.
And the ability to hug is a big turn on!
Seriously, it just shows that he is comfortable with physical contact. Yeah so big on the laughing and big on the putting the arm around me. Everything else is optional.

[hr]I love cheese.

[Bryn]

[s]exnihilo wrote on 21:13, 20th Apr 2004:
Pah.

You're making me paranoid - how come you're online here and not elsewhere?

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[exnihilo]

Because I am. Sometimes there is no better reason than that.


[hr]The world is full of stupid people. I say we get rid of all the warning labels and let the problem take care of itself.

[Bryn]

Long in the tooth, and plenty in the grain.

I seem to be in a very bad mood, I realise. I apologise to any that I've disrupted.

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[Cain]

[s]Bonnie wrote on 21:13, 20th Apr 2004:
And for some reason I tend to go for guys with blue or greeny-blue eyes more than anything else.

etc etc


you missed out that he absolutely, positively has to be clen shaven or you won't even consider him.

or have you changed your mind now?

i remember the beard threads and the gross out from you about kissing a bearded guy.

as for me - an ability to get on with and connect is most important. everything else comes second, but hotness oftens stems from the mental attraction.

[tramp]

absolutely NO facial hair, you just don't know what's breeding in there. i'm only 5'8 but would much prefer someone taller than me otherwise i feel like some cumbersome freakish transvestite. i have been asked to walk on the road before so a boy could benefit from the extra 3 inches of 'pavement height'. people who collect weird things are a hit.

someone who is completely unconcerned by what others wear. it never ceases to amaze me when people bitch about someone's choice of clothing like some pathetic 'cool crowd' teenager.

another alarming st andrews phenomenen are the people who can quite comfortably say in casual conversation 'did you see that right minger we just passed?'

i would like someone who is impulsive and willing to miss their favourite TV programmes to do things or someone active. now that doesn't mean to say they have to be an athletic god, just have the get-up-and-go that most people seem to lack these days. 'oh, i'm so tired. i'm exhausted.' yeah, 15 hours a week of classes, most of which you don't attend...tough life i know.

[Rufus]

This is actually a really hard question to answer.

Uhm. Someone who doesn't bore me. Someone who doesn't moan incessantly. Someone who inspires and stimulates me. Someone, really, who is not human.

Bugger.

[tinker]

This may sound like a cliché, but I find myself becoming attracted to someone mainly because of their personality – some of which I think you can grasp from first impressions. On another note I like guys who are able to argue with me whilst seeing others perspectives, well dressed does appeal and so too does a certain amount of arrogance/confidence ... a good height is also nice : ) but I agree with you tramp ... it really annoys me to see people say "so and so is such a minger" it always makes me think ... well you are not exactly and oil painting : P

Each to their own I guess!

[quarterstaff]

the question is "what do you look for?"

i assume you mean what i look for when considering a relationship with someone (a girl in my case).

well, firstly i must be attracted to them physically, at a certain basic level - how can you seriously become close and intimate with one you do not find attractive?

what i specifically find attractive in looks? well - pale skin is wonderous (why oh why do so many ruin themselves with tanning? grrr!), and being equal or lesser in height is also kinda important. i wont go any further on looks, as that is very much a matter of personal taste, and it would, i feel, be simply gratuitous. (lol)

i believe its looks that start relationships, but most definitely personality that keeps a relationship - it is the more important of the two, in the long run.

personality -

1 - must get my humour
2 - must be humourous herself
3 - must be at least as smart as me (not difficult, i know)
4 - be interesting (dare i say it - quirky!)
5 - able to not sleep for protracted periods of time and not get cranky

in short a perfect beautiful angel!

but seriously, why accept less than the best?

[Rufus]

'but seriously, why accept less than the best?'

Whit?! Well...it's rather limiting.

[Dee]

A control freak who is clingy and possessive, will order me around and won't expect me to be able to know what they're feeling without being told (because I really can't). Perhaps I wouldn't screw up so badly if I were under the thumb.

Although, not saying "yuck" at the sight of me would be another prized asset.

[hr]Crank up the Beethoven, it's time to kick some butt.

[Bonnie]

I did forget to mention the clean shaven thing. I'm writing an essay on international norms, and I guess I'll explain it like these IR freaks do. My necessity for clean shaven men is such an internalised norm, that it has become an instrinsic value for my whole state-system or dating system, much like territorial boundary recognition, thus I forgot to mention it like how staets in order to be a state need to have some territory. I knw that didn't make sense but I'm tired and going crazy from stress and sleep deprivation.

However, I have found one man attractive with facial hair, but only one and that might have been because I wasn't going out that much at that time because I was working so hard.
Sideburns and even muttonchops are okay, sometimes encouraged but goatees/beards/mustaches are not.
So my guy needs to make me laugh and be able to use a razor.
and I forgot, he has to know that "being a man" does not equal being a stupid, abusive, or aggressive arse. I already know he has a penis, but that doesn't mean entitle him to treat me or anyone else badly to feel superior. Men should never have to be like that in order to prove their manliness.
What ever happened to that simple answer about him just needing to make me laugh?
[hr]I love cheese and watching my man shave his face-it's just sexy! I don't know why.

[iohannes]

Good teeth. Joking aside, a nice smile. Dark hair, though I have realised that I am becoming less picky about that. Dark-ish eyes - again less picky than I used to be. Quite like shy, quiet people. Low maintenance (in the good way.) Oh, and without sounding too bitter (I'm not, really, promise!) I'm getting sick of being mucked around, so not being the sort to do that would be a major plus in the pro column.

Other than that? Female and intelligent and I'll work from there, sometimes you never know what will flick your switch.

End of personal ad

[quarterstaff]

[s]Rufus wrote on 00:23, 21st Apr 2004:
'but seriously, why accept less than the best?'

Whit?! Well...it's rather limiting.



limiting? perhaps, but if you do find that one, you will never need to look for another! and what if you were with someone who wasnt your best match, and then the best match comes along? you will have to break up and really hurt the other person!


methinks i recognise this conversation, lol

[tramp]

[s]Dee wrote on 00:25, 21st Apr 2004:[i]

Although, not saying "yuck" at the sight of me would be another prized asset.

oh dear Dee
bin that attitude or that's how people will start seeing you!
if people are looking at you thinking that, they are not the sort of people you'd want to spend time with anyway
forget them

[tramp]

[s]tinker wrote on 00:18, 21st Apr 2004:[i]
it really annoys me to see people say "so and so is such a minger" it always makes me think ... well you are not exactly and oil painting : P



my feelings exactly!

[Chain Mailer]

[s]tramp wrote on 09:22, 21st Apr 2004:
[s]tinker wrote on 00:18, 21st Apr 2004:[i]
it really annoys me to see people say "so and so is such a minger" it always makes me think ... well you are not exactly and oil painting : P



my feelings exactly!


Dito, people who say stuff like that are obviously too hung up on looks and are insecure of their own

[hr]
Most definitly maybe

[Steveo]

My problem is that for my 9am molecular biology I don't have time to make myself look good

See me at night and well.......I'll be drunk off my ass, but look rather improved.

I look for any attractive features first - shallow as that may be but I can not deny my male urges.

Then it all depends upon them, when talking to me. I judge reaction to comments and jokes to test the sense of humour etc.

[hr]Steveo
The man who never wears a hat